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[–] papertowels@lemmy.one 6 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

I think she had some art on the sides - you ever see those white vans/chucks/Nikes with stuff drawn on them? I forget what it was, but it looked nice and looked like a labor of love.

[–] papertowels@lemmy.one 4 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

I'm sorry that you've had experiences that led you to this conclusion :( that's a lot of bullshit that nobody should go through. You're a person with your own very valid emotions that should be expressed, not an idea of someone's "man" that they've built up in their heads. Fuck the ones that try to force you into their template.

I don't have a very diverse dating experience. I've only had a handful of relationships but they were all with decent people, and I'm still friends with all of them - in fact one of them was my best ma'am at my wedding.

The good ones are out there - don't settle for less and I wish you the best of luck in meeting them.

[–] papertowels@lemmy.one 9 points 22 hours ago

Likely assigned male at birth

[–] papertowels@lemmy.one 7 points 22 hours ago (4 children)

Fuck those people who expect you to have no emotions. Red relationship flag if I ever saw one - they didn't think of you as a person, just an idea.

One of the most impactful things my wife said to me was "it's okay to not be okay".

[–] papertowels@lemmy.one 3 points 1 day ago

Classic library meat cleaver!

[–] papertowels@lemmy.one 7 points 1 day ago

You're going to make me blush!

[–] papertowels@lemmy.one 51 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (6 children)

As a dude I still do throw out the compliment - I just make sure to say it as I leave so it's clear there are no strings attached. "I really like what you did with your shoes - have a good one!"

As a guy I feel like I typically don't get non-flirty compliments from gals, and I understand that it's probably because there's the worry of misunderstanding intent.

That said, one time a few years ago a gal mentioned she liked my boots as she walked past and I'm still riding that high, lol. If it helps make people happier I'm not going to shy away from complimenting them :)

[–] papertowels@lemmy.one 17 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Woman, not girl. I'm an adult and expect to be treated as such.

Interesting, cuz I'm interpreting that first sentence to mean how she'd like to be referred to, due to the second sentence referring to herself. Also note the singular "woman" and "girl", not plural "women" and "girls". Based on that it's pretty clear she's referring to an individual and not all womankind.

Am I missing something where she claims to speak for all womankind?

[–] papertowels@lemmy.one 26 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

as long as you don't have bad intentions it's all good

Generally speaking, this is a problematic way of justifying your actions.

It's all good if you have no bad intentions as long as you apologize when called out.

Good intentions do not give you a free pass, however they do help others understand where you're coming from if you bring them up when apologizing.

"My bad, I didn't know about that, growing up it was always okay to do XYZ"

"Sorry I made it more stressful for you, I thought I was helping"

hits very different from

"This is ridiculous, I had good intentions and you're still upset 🙄"

In fact, if you say the latter you're saying you have good intentions, but how good are those intentions if you refuse to help accommodate more?

Some understanding and clear communication will do a lot to smooth the axles of the world.

[–] papertowels@lemmy.one 1 points 2 days ago

Yeah I'd pay good money for this ngl

[–] papertowels@lemmy.one 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

Dang. Yeah unpredictability is the worst.

This is just for fun, but you might enjoy this video by someone who genetically engineered an everlasting gobstopper to give him long lasting lactose tolerance

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