As someone who met the Person i love and live with in one of the dirtiest gay hookup shitholes i can say, yes these Apps are fucking pathetic and literally tuned to make you feel like shit (Its literally an algorithm that wants you to get addicted and spend money on it, it absolutley is that bad).
There are lots of people on it who got so broken by these apps that they just fuck arround there and bully others or scam you.
BUT: there are some people like you, the hard thing is to find them without going insane or getting catfished by a real person or even a bot thats owned by the dating site themselfs (of course there are a shit ton of other bots there to lol) IF, and thats a really really really BIG if! if you have the time for people who will definitly waste it, the media/technical competence to not get scammed in one of thousands of ways and you are imune to social media Algorithms that hit you with dopamine in ways that makes your brain want to vomit after some time using them, you might be able to find someone on there. i was and im looking forward to marry that guy! would probably never found the love of my life if i hadnt wasted 100+ hours in fucking planet romeo and grindr...
Edit: PS: i think Dating Apps are worse for your mental health than Porn, please dont get lost in there!
Apple Silicon goes absolutely BRRRR