vonbaronhans

Ah. Gotcha. For some reason I was stuck on what I presume is the other lawyer giving a "sit" command. An unintentional red herring, perhaps.

Maybe it's obvious, but I genuinely don't get this one.

That's exactly it, yep. I'm well over apologizing at this point.

And yeah, I also moved back home for a while after college, and it was a bad time. Plenty of good, but plenty I'm glad to leave behind. Let us all strive to be better people than our parents were, I say.

I'm glad you're out, and I hope you're doing well. Stay safe out there!

Yeah, I'm conflicted about my family enough as it is. But push comes to shove, I'm fine on my own at this point.

Ah, that's the thing. He never demanded an apology. He sulked, and it was others in the family who learned about it (through either me or him) that told me I was wrong and to apologize.

I've never been one to back down from a conflict I thought was worthwhile. It wasn't until I was literally a married adult when an in-law (whom we love dearly) told my SO about how my family "sweeps things under the rug". When my SO told me later, I was like "nah... but wait do we though?" That led to a lot of revisiting old memories and realizing how conflict avoidant we really were (except for me, lol).

Yeah, if either of my parents demanded an apology from me for anything right now... they have some choice words coming.

My dad was smart when I was growing up. He is smart now.

But he's so entrenched in the worst right wing political lunacy, and always has been, that I've rarely viewed him as someone to imitate morally.

I blew up at him as a teen over the Iraq War. He never once justified his position in anything remotely resembling a reasoned argument, but I hurt his feelings, so I had to apologize to him about it. That family dynamic has never really changed, so I just don't talk to him anymore.

30mg for me. I never had any sort of headache or anything. The worst side effect I had was sweaty hands, which were really sweaty the first week. Even that has lessened significantly over the last couple of months.

Ah yeah, that's certainly a real possibility. We just gotta do our best out here. Best of luck!

On Vyvanse now (diagnosed recently in my late 30s), and I haven't had any sleep issues.

Maybe they started you on too high a dose?

In any case, I'm glad you found something that works for you!

Man, I still really struggle to understand​ how we can reliably age-gate anything on the Internet without sacrificing privacy for everyone.

IRL you can just show your govt issued ID, but there's virtually zero privacy risk doing so. Bouncers don't register ID scans, typically, and they're just one person. The govt doesn't know you went to that club or drank at that one bar, unless they're actively surveilling you.

But if I needed to identify myself as an adult online, simply by virtue of how digital systems work, that probably requires checking against a govt database, and that database will keep logs, and now Trump knows I went to Pornhub, and likely also exactly what I watched or searched for.

Maybe I'm dumb, but I really don't know any way around this sort of thing.

I remember reading a Haidt article for an ethics class in grad school. The analysis felt... underwhelming? It's been too long to remember the article, but I think it was something about the "morality" of conservatives being not worse but different than liberals (limited to the US, iirc). I just remember reading it and going... yeah conservative morality functions differently. It's also just demonstrably worse, though, even based on what the article was focusing on?

That class was weird though. Mostly just a bunch of folks going,"yeah well this is what I care about" and disagreeing with each other with seemingly no intention whatsoever to try and evaluate or engage with one another.

Has Discord really done Step Two? I'm not saying they haven't tried to drive out competition, mind you, I'm just unaware of any attempts to do so. Unlike Facebook or Google or Apple who have long, stories histories of driving out or purchasing any competition they could.

Regardless, every other part is true. My friend group uses Discord all the time, for its initial intended purpose - quickly and easily hanging out with friends with chat and voice and sometimes video. Bunch of us even have Nitro.

Despite being relatively early adopters and genuinely enjoying Discord, we're all very wary and actively seeking alternatives for when it inevitably becomes unbearable to use.