I've found the following work-around works pretty well. If you host an instance that's currently on 0.19.0 or 0.19.1, consider implementing this.
There are two bugs that this helps with:
Work-around:
Create cronjobs that restart the Lemmy container every 6 hours (but not at midnight). The following example is used for a Debian system running Lemmy in Docker.
Type crontab -e
into the terminal
Add something like the following:
~~0 1 * * * docker container restart lemmy-lemmy-1
0 7 * * * docker container restart lemmy-lemmy-1
0 13 * * * docker container restart lemmy-lemmy-1
0 19 * * * docker container restart lemmy-lemmy-1~~
3 1-23/6 * * * docker container restart lemmy-postgres-1 && sleep 60 && docker container restart lemmy-lemmy-1
By restarting the container every 6 hours, outbound federation continues to work. There may still be some delays, but everything gets cleared up regularly.
By telling it what time to restart (0100, 0700, 1300, and 1900 as opposed to "every 6 hours"), it avoids restarting at midnight. This avoids the second bug.
My instance has been doing this for enough days where I'm confident that it's working. You can check your federation status here. Note that it's normal for there to be 0 up-to-date instances and a lot of lagging instances. As long as they sometimes turn "up to date", then everything is getting caught up.
RE: BS products from massive corporations, I'm with you for sure.
RE: soap is soap - there are lots of different types of soap. Each type of fat has differing amounts of loric acid, oleic acid, linoleic acid, etc. Lard makes a soap that's a good firmness (not too soft, not too hard), not very cleansing (so it won't dry your skin out, but also won't do much hard cleaning), very conditioning, not very bubbly, but very creamy. Other fats/oils yield much different results. Soaps with a lot of coconut oil are very cleansing, so they'll dry your skin out. Your soap sounds like it could be used daily without any problems.
So, I disagree that soap is soap. Soap that's made specifically for shaving typically has a lot of added stearic acid, because no natural fats have enough natural stearic acid to produce a really stable lather that won't dissipate during the shave. Most use a lot of beef tallow, but there are also a lot of vegan options.