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Neurotypicals say I should make decisions with incomplete information. (thebrainbin.org)
submitted 3 weeks ago by modem_down@thebrainbin.org to c/autism@lemmy.world
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I do. I decide to obtain more complete information.

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[–] modem_down@thebrainbin.org 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I fully agree with you that there are situations where some people are just impatient, and corners are cut

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a lot of neurotypicals often don't like those people too

Unfortunately, that is not my experience.

the question isn't "do I think this person will without a doubt be our top employee" or "WILL this person succeed" ... the question is "Given the information at hand, do I think there is a higher likelihood of the person succeeding or struggling?" [...] If I say yes, and they hire the person, and they don't fit at the company, I can still just point to "they answered all the interview questions properly" and it's not my fault things went poorly.

This is an instance of your case 1, which is not really what this thread is about.

[–] werty@sh.itjust.works 5 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Unfortunately, that is not my experience.

Your experience is incomplete and a poor basis for making judgements about large groups of people.

[–] slackassassin@piefed.social 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Thank you. The amount of otherising around here is concerning.

[–] modem_down@thebrainbin.org 0 points 3 weeks ago

Wild. Would you rather pretend neurotype differences don’t exist?

The point of this sub is to be supportive. A safe space for auties/Aspies to state their experiences. My experience is that the NTs I've encountered frequently impose artificial time pressure based on their own internal vibes rather than genuine constraints, and either don't know or don't care if the information on which they expect a decision to be made is insufficient.

Apparently, you’d prefer to downvote me, invalidate my experiences, and thereby “other” me an Aspie. Hypocritical and against the ethos of the sub.

Like I say, wild.

[–] modem_down@thebrainbin.org -1 points 3 weeks ago

You could have responded along the lines, “Sorry to hear it. I guess you’ve had some misfortune on that front.”

Instead you responded with a straw man:

making judgements about large groups of people

It’s a straw man because:

  • At no point did I generalise or say all NTs do that.
  • I merely mentioned my experience.

Critcising an Aspie for reporting their lived experience is cruel and unsympathetic: the opposite of allyship, and wholly against the purpose of this sub.