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The complete and total inapplicability of most ADHD advice (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by schipelblorp@sh.itjust.works to c/autism@lemmy.world
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Reading the web and watching the YouTube's yields a plethora of little attention hacks that apparently really help people with their ADHD, but leave me feeling completely alienated because absolutely none of them work for me. In fact, I just don't even implement them, just sort of eye them suspisciously from a distance.

It feels a little reminscent of the advice I'd get for depression in that the bulk of advice seems targetted towards people with less severe forms, and both writers and readers can say, "Wow! Thanks! This really worked for me!"

The feeling that I had earlier that, "OK, now I have a diagnosis, I can start treating the problem" is evaporating away I'm left with a despair that comes from having a version of ADHD that is seemingly not treatable and not work-aroundable and is actually and irrevocably debilitating.

Getting an eval in a week

Edit: If anyone has resources for severe ADHD instead of this Stephen Covery organizational bullshit, please drop it in the comments.

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[โ€“] tetrachromacy@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

When I watch YouTube and people there give me ADHD advice, I remember a quote from the movie The Forbidden Kingdom: "Learn The Way, then find your own way". Seeing how someone handles their own ADHD helps me to think of ways that advice can be applicable to my personal brand of ADHD. I almost never do what people say to "master" ADHD, but I do take their advice and find a way to integrate it into my routines and rhythms. The advice and guidance isn't worthless, usually, but it's not something I adopt on a 1:1 basis. I take bits and pieces of the advice and assemble it into something that works for me. I hope you can do something like that too. Best of luck ๐Ÿซ‚

[โ€“] schipelblorp@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Yeah, I think I have pathological demand avoidance on top of everything else, so that definitely changes the calculus.

[โ€“] leds@feddit.dk 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

~~pathological demand avoidance~~ Pervasive Drive for Autonomy

[โ€“] schipelblorp@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 week ago

No, I can't even de the stuff I want to do for myself.