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Despite the specific choice of words, they could very easily just mean you "say/reply" that you are tired alot. Most people don't use words as literally as we do, and don't try to find the exact word to convey what they specifically mean in the instance.
Their focus is more on how consistently you are tired when they want to hang out with you, not that you are "complaining" about it.
It might be worth expanding on why and when you are tired, and what times or situations you would be less likely to be tired in/at.
NT people also will generally use "tired" as a generic excuse and not specifically mean they don't have the physical/mental energy to enjoy that activity currently. So they might be interpreting your use of it through that lens as well.
It is pretty tough to figure out what they mean sometimes since words are only a small part of their communication, there is usually much more context to how they said it, or what they were doing with the rest of their body when they said it.
Over time, and with practice, NT people get better at communicating with us, and we get better at communicating with them. But by default there can be alot of miscommunication. And most NT people don't like the sorts of long winded explanations we like to expound to make sure we have communicated effectively, rather than having lost something in the translation.
It might be best to ask them as casually as possible for a bit more information. Sometimes if they are in the mood for it, they will be ok with awkward exchanges like that. And if you want them to be a long-term friend, and they also want to be a long-term friend of yours, talks like that might help.