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Sidenote: If someone asks how I do, I tell them. In a friendly and not detailed way but thats all I can muster. If thats ok for them, great. If not, their problem.
I‘m the first person to jump if someone is in a chrisis but I cant be bothered to play these games.
Make any sense?
Yeah makes sense. I suggest though you check in on yourself with one part: "if not, their problem"
Hypothesis: If that's the case you wouldn't have created the OP.
This is intended purely as food for thought so - chances are high that I'm straight wrong. Still worth thinking about it in my opinion, just to be sure!
I'm not sure I understand you correctly.
I do care what others feel. But their assumptions are not my concern. Does that make clearer?
If I ask you how you feel, I want the truth, nothing else. If you want to tell me, fine. If you dont want to tell me, fine as well.
What I intended to say is that it's possible that you do care about their assumptions - more precisely how they behave based on their assumptions.
Because if that is the case than it could be worth the energy to train social reaction patterns (if that's possible at all, excuse my lack of knowledge!)
The more you learn about your own reactions the better you know where to spend the very limited amount of emotional energy every person has - that's the reason why I brought it up in the first place.
To put it in another way: assumptions and feelings are very closely related and exploring this connection could be time and energy well spent.
If you have a close person who knows you well you could ask them this question by the way - at least for me it's sometimes easier to see patterns for others than within myself!
I see. But I dont think I do. Assumptions are very rarely a good thing and I dont think I want to learn something like being less direct for some dance.
Maybe the others want to learn to be more direct and truthful.