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Transgender rights are under attack. But trans people 'just want to thrive and survive.'
(www.usatoday.com)
this post was submitted on 14 Nov 2023
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I dont think the person in question was saying that you can't be stealth. They're saying that the cisgender world as the default cannot continue to exist. Trans people have to be visible, for many of us it's not even a choice but. Trans people have to be normal. It has to be a normal okay thing for a trans person to exist.
Going stealth is okay. A lot of us want to do that. But not everyone can, nor does everyone want to. It's also not something most of us can just up and go do. And for trans people who must be visibly trans, how the public perceives trans people has an extremely huge impact on their daily lives. If trans people are not normal, if being trans is not a normal thing to be, if being visibly trans is not a possibility, then we can't be ourselves at all. In this context, retreating into the shadows means going back into the closet for many of us and not being able to transition and be ourselves. Trans people have to be visible. Not every one of us, but a lot of us. So we want to be accepted. We do not want to be pushed back into the closet.
It's also for the next generation of trans people. So that trans youth growing up see trans adults in their community, so that trans adults see older trans people. So that trans people can see that life is possible as a trans person. So that people feel like they can be themselves and to see trans people living happily as themselves. To show trans youth who are just coming out that trans joy is real and it is possible to be happy and be trans. Trans people have lived in the shadows forever, we've lived behind closed doors and inside closets. It can't be that way anymore. No one should feel like they have to conform to cisgender society. And so trans people have to be visible. That's a lot more what people are talking about when we use the phrase "trans visibility".
When i was a teenager back in the early 00s, i went to a trans support group. It largely consisted of older transitioners, age 50+, who were not living good lives, through no fault of their own. But it was a very dark experience for me. I expected that my life would play out like theirs, and i would join the 41% club. I never thought that I'd get to experience just being a regular girl, and that part still seems surreal a decade later.
This is a common experience for young trans people seeking support. This is "trans visibility" and it harmed me profoundly. What would've been really nice back then were successful role models who make their trans-ness an incidental detail. We have those now, and they're not what I'd call "visible" to cis people, although they don't hide who they are.
I'm still waiting to find older rolemodels. Most of us are really sad when we get older. I don't know how similar this is to the general lgbt population, but I'm concerned. My goal is to build a little family, and then just live a quiet life and keep each other close.
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