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Being 'to negative' (midwest.social)

submitted 6 months ago by IvyRaven@midwest.social to c/autism@lemmy.world

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So I'm a shut-in with a ton of problems and no money. My life revolves around World of Warcraft and Destiny 2 which is sad in its own right I'm sure. Anyway every single time I try to find a community (guild or clan) it goes to hell within a month or so. They always say I'm too negative about the game or my performance. No matter what I do/say it apparently always comes across as 'negative' and they see it as hurting their community. Funny enough these communities are always dead and I'm talking into a void trying to engage people.

Sorry I'm not sure why I'm posting this. Just had another group tell me I was getting kicked due to negativity and I'm so tired of it. I don't have any friends, I'm always starting over from scratch and even if I try my hardest it still ends the same way. Don't even feel that I'm being negative since I just say bugs me. Sorry. Feel like I could cry, because of everything, and I can't even do that.

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[–] IvyRaven@midwest.social 8 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I had talked to them about how I come off as negative but don't mean it thar way. They said I was good and to not stress it. So I was just beint me and tonight I get a 'you're being negative and we don't want that in our community'. So even being real with them and talking to them about this it wasn't good enough.

[–] stembolts@programming.dev 3 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

People are unpredictable. Don't take it as a judgement of who you are, we all face rejection sometimes. It can even be good for you in doses because it helps build resilience and shows that failure is just part of growth as a person. If you never fail, you aren't trying hard enough.

All you can do is sincerely try, if you are doing that, as well as accepting feedback and growing, the right people will notice that effort. You'll find your people, just don't stop trying.

I also suggest meditation, it can help you to identify the roots if thoughts as well as help you to know yourself. You may find the root of your negativity if you explore yourself.

Not an ad, I use it regularly, Headspace is a great app as an intro to meditation. Costs like $100 a year I think? If money is tight there are plenty of free alternatives.

Wish you the best.