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Most of the time when people say they have an unpopular opinion, it turns out it's actually pretty popular.

Do you have some that's really unpopular and most likely will get you downvoted?

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[–] CheeseBread@lemmy.ml 12 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (9 children)

Pansexual, polysexual, and omnisexual are all microlabels and are all subsets of bisexual. You don't need more labels than gay, straight, and bi.

Edit: I forgot about asexuals. But I specifically only care about bi subsets. They're dumb, and you only need bi

[–] CeruleanRuin@lemmings.world 2 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Here's an unpopular opinion: you don't need any labels at all. You love who you live, you fuck who you fuck, you can advertise what you're looking for if you want to but all this identity business obscures the reality that humans are far more diverse and interesting than the boxes we build for ourselves.

Most people who call themselves straight would fuck someone from their own gender if there weren't cultural expectations against it hammered into them from and early age. Most people who call themselves gay would wander if they found someone they connected with. Very few of us rest at one end of any spectrum or matrix. Most of us are somewhere in the middle, and far more mobile than we might realize.

[–] tiefling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 months ago

Bro accidentally reinvented pansexuality

[–] Wirlocke@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 7 months ago

As a pansexual I feel that Bi and Pan have enough differences to both be justified while the others are micro labels (not invalid, just less useful as labels).

But I recognize I'm drawing that line very conveniently for myself.

[–] doggle@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

If we're splitting hairs, bi should be a sunset of pan.

Also, there is some need for a fourth "none of the above" label...

[–] tiefling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Polysexual is very different than bisexual. You can be het-poly or homo-poly.

Also, most of the nuanced micro-labels are for the community. If they don't apply to you, don't use them.

[–] CheeseBread@lemmy.ml 1 points 3 months ago

Polyamory isn't a sexuality. It's a dating preference. Most of these labels do apply to me, and I think they're redundant.

[–] gamermanh@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

Not understanding what words mean isn't an unpopular opinion, you're just wrong

Not about the first bit, that's arguable

You definitely DO need more labels than straight, gay, and bi. For example: asexual or sapiosexual, those don't fit into any of the 3 you listed

[–] ougi@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

subsets of bisexual

What does bi cover that pan doesn’t :-)

[–] PsychedSy@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

If you say you're bi nobody thinks you fuck woks.

[–] Treefox@lemmy.ml 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I agree. All the little bitty addages don't make sense. You can be bi and still have preferences. Just keep it simple gosh dangit.

[–] June@lemm.ee 1 points 2 years ago

I think there’s value for folks in the community to have the hyper-specific labels. I’m saying this as a bi person who agrees that pan, Omni, etc are sub categories of bi.

[–] RagingNerdoholic@lemmy.ca 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

And here I thought pansexual meant you really like cookware.

[–] ougi@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

Is that really what you thought, or just an attempt at humor? Be honest ;)

[–] applejacks@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

"All words are made up"