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[–] fallentides@lemmy.one 48 points 3 weeks ago (11 children)

We ladies must look desirable; the fashion styles changed to accentuate my hips and my tits, my baby making parts. That’s all I’m here to do anyways. Historically, prly religion upholding the patriarch; same difference. Hide them elbows and ankles!

[–] pmk@lemmy.sdf.org 33 points 3 weeks ago (6 children)

As a man, I wish clothes would make me feel desirable. I have asked my girlfriend which clothes she would like to see me in, but she says it's not about the clothes. That it doesn't matter. It's more about what I do. So I just dress in plain, comfortable, practical clothes which makes me, well, practical. Useful. I often wish I had options to just be desired for my body, without the pressure to achieve this or that to be desirable. It's a source of sadness for me.

[–] greedytacothief@lemmy.world 11 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

I mean, looking like you know what you're doing, looking confident doesn't mean you have to dress plain.

Also I am sure gym bros will complement you on your body. Kind of like how as a straight man I only get compliments on my facial hair from other men. Look for validation from your friends not randos

[–] USSEthernet@startrek.website 3 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Lol no joke, all I get is "nice beard" from other dudes.

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