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I’m gonna be honest, I’m not asking for a friend, I’m asking for myself. Our daughter (24) married this man (65) in September. She herself stated money was the main reason, and he knows it but it doesn’t bother him. Both my husband & I are having a very hard time getting used to the idea.

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[–] twinnie@feddit.uk 26 points 5 hours ago (2 children)

I don’t know how I’d deal with it but I can’t say I wouldn’t have done the same thing given the chance, at least at that age. Does she realise that 65 isn’t all that old? He could have decades left in him. Most of my grandparents have lived into their 90s.

[–] sunglade@lemmy.world 31 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

She does. And she actually likes him, money was the main reason but it wasn’t the only reason. She said she wouldn’t marry an insufferable person or a vegetable. This man is extremely active, both physically and mentally. I don’t think she’s waiting for his death. Plus he already spoils her to no end now, while he’s alive.

[–] dingus@lemmy.world 1 points 38 minutes ago* (last edited 37 minutes ago)

This is interesting and I think it sounds like they are in a better scenario than others who marry for money. I'm glad she actually likes him as well. It's certainly odd, but it seems like both of them benefit from the partnershipand both seem to be open about it. While unusual, it seems healthier than other types of these relationships where it isn't clearly stated.

I will say like the one other user said...make sure she has a way that she could support herself in the event he leaves her or something.