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This dude just casually handing out the secret to being a good conversationalist. Ask questions, listen to the answers and follow them like a trail of breadcrumbs. All of a sudden you're having a conversation, and you won't be worrying about your courage
Which works great until the other person responds with 2-5 words max every time you ask a question (dating apps)
That's a good thing, imagine if you ended up with that person.
I do and have been but there's only so many times I can try
Yeah trying to have a conversation on a dating app is like pissing into the wind
Edit: interesting username, is that a reference to the old flash player gnash?
No it's something I came up with when I was 10 and it stuck. Not really a reference to anything
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lmao
wot u think
ngl dat flips
brb ohio
Honestly at least that would convey a bit of personality lol
Those people aren't a good match for you (or maybe anyone).
A good solution here is to ask open ended questions instead of ones with a yes or no etc answer and to talk about their interests.
So far it seems as though they're interested in nothing
There's nothing in their profiles about their interests?
At least in my age range most of the profiles are pretty generic, asking about stuff in them usually results in bare minimum generic responses or no response at all
Wow, that's pretty dire. I have tried dating apps and didn't really ever find much luck in them and started looking in places where dating isn't the goal instead like hobbies or common community spaces and slowly building relationships that way.
I've been thinking of doing that, tried some clubs in my area but it was mostly people in their 40s+
Kinda want to try get into climbing, I'm in the gym a lot anyway and I think most of them come with gym memberships too, I hear it's quite diverse but also not sure how social it is
Normal gym for sure feels like everyone wants to be left alone
i'll never cease to be amazed at how much the old ways still work.