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[–] CileTheSane@lemmy.ca 10 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I've always been a computer/theatre nerd. When I was a teen my parents bought me a bike. I did not express nor have any interest in a bike, but I'm sure my mom felt I needed to go outside more and spend less time on the computer. A week or two later while upset at me about something else she complained that I haven't even used my new bike yet.

[–] Danitos@reddthat.com 10 points 2 days ago (2 children)

That sounds a bit petty from you, at least from my POV.

No matter how nerdy you are, going outside is healtht, both physically and mentally. They got you a nice gift, IMO.

[–] ComradeMiao@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Bro upset his parents told him to be healthy and touch grass.

Lenny moment

[–] CileTheSane@lemmy.ca 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I didn't like a gift that demonstrated zero understanding of who I was or what I would have wanted.

There was no attempt to talk to me about going outside more or getting more exercise, I have always been pretty skinny and reasonably healthy, and at no point did I indicate that I didn't go outside or wasn't active.

But I'm sure you understand my parents and their motivations better than I do.
Lenny moment.

[–] ComradeMiao@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] Funkwonker@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

You're only making one person look silly, and it's not them.

[–] ComradeMiao@lemmy.dbzer0.com -2 points 2 days ago

Blahaj backhanded moment

[–] CileTheSane@lemmy.ca 3 points 2 days ago (2 children)

They got me something I had no interest in and were upset I wasn't using it. Ever hear the phrase "it's the thought that counts"? It demonstrated zero thought into what I would actually be interested in.

It's like buying a teen a set of knitting needles and being surprised that they didn't start knitting with them.

[–] blackbrook@mander.xyz 13 points 2 days ago

Well it might have been a thought about what would be good for you (to their belief), but to be upset that it didn't just make you want to use seems a but naΓ―ve.

[–] dubyakay@lemmy.ca 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Ever hear the saying "Don't look a gift horse into the mouth"?

It demonstrated plenty of thought.

[–] CileTheSane@lemmy.ca -2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I know nothing about horses. I won't look this gift horse in the mouth because I don't know know what I'm looking at, but I'm also not going to be thrilled with the horse you've gifted me that I have no idea what to do with.

[–] snugglesthefalse@sh.itjust.works 0 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It's a common saying, it's not a literal thing

[–] CileTheSane@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 day ago

Thanks tips.

My point is if someone did show up at your house gifting you a horse for Christmas it would be appropriate for you to respond with "what am I supposed to do with this?" And someone telling you "it's a nice gift, be thankful for it" would be an unreasonable response.

It's an example that not every gift is thoughtful just because it's a gift.