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does anyone else’s family think their ambitions/goals are “stupid”? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 2 days ago by drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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i’m constantly told to give up on my goals. they’re not even unrealistic, i don’t want to be a big, giant unicorn who saves the world or something.

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[–] temporal_spider@lemm.ee 10 points 2 days ago

This sounds like an example of the "crab bucket mentality." It's very common, especially among groups who have experienced trauma such as poverty, war, or racism.

You can absolutely live your own life, and learn the things you're interested in. Still, it's good to keep some compassion for your family members. They probably do love you and want you to be happy. They might just be frightened of you stepping outside their reality.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crab_mentality