drbollocks

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[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

femboys are you going to be there 😊

[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago) (1 children)

thanks so much, i blocked him because he wouldn’t stop harassing me. he told me to ditch my bf for him and didn’t care that i didn’t have feelings for him. in fact, he didn’t care much about my personality or identity so long as i was his girlfriend. that’s all he saw, nothing else outside of that.

and even though he wanted me to “take my time”, he was convinced i was his future wife despite only having known me for about a week all because i was pretty and nice to him.

he also didn’t actually care whether or not i liked him, he just wanted me to say yes regardless. i feel like since that was his first time, he’d have sex with me, force me into doing it if i said no, and then break up and badmouth me.

[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 hours ago

i didn’t know all the details, he just said that she showed signs of schizophrenia and acted weird. i didn’t know her and didn’t know their relationship, but i know he did leave her because she had hallucinations, paranoia, thought objects were real (like dolls), and apparently age regressed a lot. he said she got too clingy and “weird” and even “crazy” for his liking. (which ik that word is stigmatizing in that context because in high school, we were told not to call ppl who showed signs of mental illness crazy)

 

i just broke up with my bf who ghosted me bc he realized he's gay (im a woman). i don't even think i like guys but i have this compulsion to ask out my friend who i blocked just to have a man that treats me right and fit in with straight women who have bfs.

he kept talking about how he could treat me better than anyone else, that i should've ditched my bf for him (obv i said no), and badmouthed not only his gf of a few years since age 16 but also his first time. he left her bc she showed signs of schizophrenia and she blocked all his socials after he left.

he kept guilttripping me when i said i didn't want to be his gf so ik he doesn't care about consent regardless of what he says. he also completely ignored me liking women and acted like i was straight but i feel lonely.

i kinda wanna make him happy and have a bf who pays attention to me but ik i'm probably just saying this out of sadness. we were friends but i had to block.

[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)
[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 12 hours ago (2 children)

it’s a slur? let me change the title then

[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 day ago (2 children)

the person thinks they are better than everyone else and is also obsessed with rules, has to constantly insult others to remind themselves and others that they will always be better.

[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 day ago (2 children)

this lady who was my friend for a while is mean a lot because she has anger issues and is just a generally miserable, rude person. she is also autistic (i believe) like me, and gets overstimulated and is rude to everyone when they start talking all at once.

however, she is also especially cruel when she wants some sort of goal, and acts superior to everyone else. you’re a useless loser no matter how hard you try, and you are disgusting to be around. how dare you stand less than 10 yards from her?! you’re lucky to even be in her presence.

also, she is “always better than you” and cannot admit being wrong or take accountability.

 

how could you tell, since npd is an actual condition, so of course they’ll act differently, but it’s used so often to describe a regular, typical asshole.

[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

she called a friend of mine a “b*tch”, presumably because said friend wouldn’t spend time with her.

these people are nice to your face (and sometimes not) but will talk behind your back. also, they’re so quick to discard you but then lovebomb again.

[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

i’d assume she is, since she also pulls the “don’t leave me for these other people. they hate you, I heard them say it. they don’t understand you like I do, they think you’re different. an animal. they hate your disabilities” and also that she can never be wrong and nothing is ever her fault. suggesting someone might be better/at her level can throw her whole day off and cause her to hate everyone for daring to criticize her.

if she’s criticized, she goes quiet (probably mad). if she’s humbled (someone is more talented than her), she calls them slurs depending on if they’re a minority. like my friend is black and was more talented than her which humbled her, so she said “fuck you n*****r b*tch”

 

i don’t mean this to say that people with mental health conditions are all abusive, nor do i take your comments as a diagnosis, i’m more or less just curious. after all, only a professional could help the specific person.

i have been emotionally abused by someone. they can never accept their own faults or mistakes. telling them they made a mistake will set them off and cause outbursts of anger. they strictly adhere to rules and try to control people to follow a rigid set of them.

will often prey on weaknesses to make you stay with them because “no one understands you, just me”. discards you but comes back after a while and the cycle repeats.

often makes others feel bad about themselves, that they are the best/only good person and they should be the reliable one to come to when something’s wrong. in their eyes, you are worthless no matter what you do to change it.

 

i have a lot going on besides that. just broke up with a guy, realized i wasn’t even into guys (but it stung more that he didn’t pay attention to me/care regardless), then having some rocky relationships with my gf (open relationship) and long-time friend, the latter i’m cutting contact with. (meaning i will only talk to her if i have to or if she talks to me first)

with all of this, my anxiety’s acting up and i’m a bit (still although it got better) on edge.

i know bilingual people who DON’T read english

update: now this user is a grown woman who has a girlfriend 🎉

 

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