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I really don't feel the need to identify myself as any sort of -ism.
What matters more to me is how you act. It doesn't matter if someone identifies as a feminist if they don't act like one.
I think I do, but I'm probably not the best to evaluate my own behavior.
Anyway, since we're on the topic, it recently came to my attention that most top charts for media like music, films and online content is absolutely dominated by men. For no particular reason, it's just what people consume. I wonder why. Coming from a place that is seemingly more equal than most of the world, I'm surprised that the people here, even the women, are still consuming more content made by men than by women. So I set out to change my own consumption. Looking through my YouTube subscriptions I found that I myself was watching only content from men, so I started subscribing to more women doing content within my usual interests. I mean, I'm not looking for women doing things because they're women, but rather women doing things that everyone might do, but they just happen to be women. It's difficult. It feels like fighting against the algorithms just to find it, and I gotta say, a lot of the content made by women is still trying to get subscriptions based on the idea that everyone on the internet is a man. Seriously, women. When I'm searching for geeky stuff I'm not going to subscribe to your ass or breasts. Take that shit to OnlyFans or whatever. I actually want to hear or watch the topic from your perspective. And seriously, men.. please behave. It's so fucking cringe to read your lustful comments anytime a smart women dares present her face in any of the serious channels. I definitely understand why women upload less content if that's the feedback they get.
Well, I did manage to find some channels worth subscribing to, and at the moment I'm probably up to a third of my subscriptions being from women. I don't think I can push it much further without having to watch things that I have no interest in or which conflicts with any of my already mentioned points. I'll also have to acknowledge that there are differences in what topics interests men and women enough to post about or consume.
However, finally, I would suggest anyone who ever searches for something to sometimes get the woman to explain it to you instead of choosing the man every time.
Yeah, I am not downgrading my experience for the sake of it.