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Were you "popular" in school? (piefed.blahaj.zone)

submitted 2 weeks ago by atheqtpie@piefed.blahaj.zone to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Not that it matters now, but I'm curious. I don't know if I was popular. I had a lot of friends in middle school and I would say I did in high school too, but a lot less people knew me as the middle school I went to was smaller.

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[–] Truffle@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Exactly! You said it. Just because you stick a bunch of kids together for hours on end does not mean they will become friends. Some do but many of these relationships would not happen outside of a school setting, same as friends from work enviroments I guess. Some friendships can be formed IMO if the school/work setting bond can be translated/migrate to other settings. For example, I now have friends who started as clients of teachers or whatever and our relationship has many different layers and tendrils. I like that.

I have one friend with whom I just celebrated 25 years of friendship with and we have been through ot all: Family deaths, marriages, having kids, getting jobs, losing jobs, moving countries, etc. And we could not be more different from each other if we tried lol. What I am trying to say is that making friends is not for the weak and I applaud you for putting yourself out there as scary or stupid it can feel sometimes.

[–] fluffykittycat@slrpnk.net 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Schools also make a lot of structural decitions that make genuine socialization harder

[–] Truffle@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 weeks ago

Absolutely.