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Is 16 and 19 really that bad? (lemmings.world)

submitted 1 day ago by blackwitch@lemmings.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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So, my good friend (18m) had a falling out with his ex (19m) because the ex bullied him and also because he is apparently dating a 16f, so my friend thinks he is a pedophile for obvious reasons (adult + minor).

I can see why this would be considered bad but also, when I turn 16, my girlfriend will be 19 too, as I am currently a young sophomore who is about 3 years younger than her girlfriend, a senior.

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[–] Shimitar@downonthestreet.eu 18 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

16-19? Not pedophilia. Not literally nor legally, move on.

Pedophilia means being attracted by somebody who does not show sexual maturity yet, and I strongly doubt that I the case (I have a 16yo daughter, so...). And laws, usually, have clear exceptions for similar ages people like this, as it's expected and quite normal. I mean given how stupid males are at that age, he being 3y older alny means they are closer than two 16yo.

Are they both in school? Is there some power imbalance or abuse? Otherwise, move on and let them live their lives.

[–] manuallybreathing@lemmy.ml -1 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

It's not literally pedophilia, cool, but it is still creepy and child abuse

being 16 makes a 19 year old seem like a real adult

it wont end well, this situation probably means the younger party isn't in a good place, some 19yo bozo isn't in a position to support someone

[–] Shimitar@downonthestreet.eu 6 points 9 hours ago

I have no idea which part of the world you live, but here nothing of that is true most of the time.

That would be a love story between a first year and a last year student. Maybe unusual, but mostly doomed to last 3 months at best.

Indeed a 17-19 is more common, and 18-19 quite common, but I wouldnt worry too much. Monitor yes, specially if the 16yo is somebody I care for/of.

But child abuse? That's a bit stretched.