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Is 16 and 19 really that bad? (lemmings.world)

submitted 2 days ago by blackwitch@lemmings.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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So, my good friend (18m) had a falling out with his ex (19m) because the ex bullied him and also because he is apparently dating a 16f, so my friend thinks he is a pedophile for obvious reasons (adult + minor).

I can see why this would be considered bad but also, when I turn 16, my girlfriend will be 19 too, as I am currently a young sophomore who is about 3 years younger than her girlfriend, a senior.

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[–] manuallybreathing@lemmy.ml -2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It's not literally pedophilia, cool, but it is still creepy and child abuse

being 16 makes a 19 year old seem like a real adult

it wont end well, this situation probably means the younger party isn't in a good place, some 19yo bozo isn't in a position to support someone

[–] Shimitar@downonthestreet.eu 7 points 1 day ago

I have no idea which part of the world you live, but here nothing of that is true most of the time.

That would be a love story between a first year and a last year student. Maybe unusual, but mostly doomed to last 3 months at best.

Indeed a 17-19 is more common, and 18-19 quite common, but I wouldnt worry too much. Monitor yes, specially if the 16yo is somebody I care for/of.

But child abuse? That's a bit stretched.