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When they tell you at work or at school to give it your all, do they mean to do something until you burn out or collapse of exhaustion? Because that seems to be the trope in all movies and shows. (lemmy.ml)

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[–] trolololol@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

When I have said it to people with the intention of them growing, first of all it is meant for their own benefit, not for getting good grades or work recognition.

I find it is important for people to know what their unrealised potential is, and growing as a result of doing something hard, and making this a positive cycle.

But the experience has to provide the rewards in itself. Pursuing external validation or trying to align with someone else's idea of a noble goal will only lead to frustration. As well as decreased confidence.

All that said, you can't have that goal through all your life. Do that for a while, take a rest that could be a weekend, a month or even 10 years long if you're going through raising kids. As long as it's in your own terms and you're not hurting anyone. Nobody likes assholes.