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[โ€“] echodot@feddit.uk 1 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (2 children)

It's not that we think that everyone on a .ml instance is a bad person it's just that if you don't watch your back you end up talking to a bunch of people who think that mass murder and war crimes and acceptable as long as their friends are the ones doing it. And they are unfortunately also on .ml and to tar everyone with the same brush.

It's why a lot of instances are defederating which sucks for you of course because none of it is your fault.

[โ€“] ThirdConsul@lemmy.ml 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I don't think any popular instances defederated .ml though?

[โ€“] Jayjader@jlai.lu 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

lemmy.ml, no, but I'm fairly certain that lemmygrad.ml has been defederated from lemmy.world at least, if not others.

[โ€“] Cowbee@lemmy.ml 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Lemmygrad.ml has been defederated from Lemmy.world, dbzer0, blahaj, etc, but such defederations are one-way. Lemmygrad.ml doesn't block them, so Grad users can see all that content too.

[โ€“] Jayjader@jlai.lu 3 points 3 days ago

I see, thanks for the correction.

[โ€“] Cowbee@lemmy.ml 4 points 3 days ago

Nobody thinks mass murder and war crimes are acceptable "as long as their friends are doing it." We communists do support revolution, and using force against fascism, landlords, capitalists, etc, because that's what's sadly often necessary for working class liberation. We don't simply give "mass murder" a pass, that's like saying it's bad to support the defeat of the Nazis in World War II because a lot of Nazis died.