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Why is this transphobic? (Update) (thelemmy.club)

submitted 1 week ago by may_be@thelemmy.club to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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So, I posted about not wanting to shave despite my family and the guy I like wanting me to. Someone on another social media platform (I know Lemmy isn't like other social medias sometimes) said that it was because the guy I like was transphobic and saw me as a girl. Is his behavior transphobic for wanting me to shave my private areas and legs? I think it's just a preference...

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[–] reallykindasorta@slrpnk.net 6 points 1 week ago

I don’t think it’s necessarily phobic but I personally find it a bit presumptuous for someone you’re not dating yet to express preferences about how they prefer you to groom.

HAVING the preference doesn’t seem like a problem and doesn’t seem linked to transphobia.

In my perfect world you would learn about their preferences when you were trying a new thing (shaving, haircut, outfit, whatever) and they were like “I find this new thing incredibly attractive.”