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Why is this transphobic? (Update) (thelemmy.club)

submitted 1 week ago by may_be@thelemmy.club to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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So, I posted about not wanting to shave despite my family and the guy I like wanting me to. Someone on another social media platform (I know Lemmy isn't like other social medias sometimes) said that it was because the guy I like was transphobic and saw me as a girl. Is his behavior transphobic for wanting me to shave my private areas and legs? I think it's just a preference...

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[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I see where they're coming from. It's a common demand straight men make of women while our culture sees body hair as very masculine rather than the biological element where testosterone is one if several reasons a person may have very thick body hair. And there's a hypervigilance at times when it comes to cis partners of trans people because enough members of our community have been burned, especially those who date chasers.

That said, having known my fair share of gay men, yeah I wouldn't jump to transphobia. Especially if you're kinda twinky.