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Well, something I feel helps me is masturbating. Not excessively, but occasionally. Just a little dopamine boost always helps. Also, you might want to get a small sage plant and smell that when you're feeling especially down. Feeling things on your hands or face also helps. Ice, raw rice, pom-poms, damp towel.
Oh my gods why does everybody think that my name is something to do with dicks? My full name is Stiffenicus! STIFFENICUS!!! I don't have a dick! I am female, but go by they/them. I have female parts.
Heh, – if it helps – I was operating under the assumption that a clitoris rubbed too frequently would also get stiff, from inflammation, and it'd work in any scenario. Though – admittedly – "stiffy" is often used as slang for an erection, I wasn't making any assumptions about genitalia.
I can absolutely delete my original comment (and this one), if any of it makes you uncomfortable, regardless the reason. I can definitely see how that'd be annoying or bothersome, etc. Just let me know and I'd be more than happy to (/gen).
No, no, it's alright. Many people have made this kind of comment. It doesn't make me uncomfortable, I was just saying that it is my nickname that people call me by.
I'm glad for that, at least.
Makes sense, given your full name. Stiffenicus is a really cool sounding name, btw!
Thanks! I changed it legally when I was 20, cause I didn't like my birth name.
I honestly have no idea how to do masturbation stuff... never done it before
Like... people on the internet never believes me and just assume everyone masturbates
I feel like I might be "defective" lol
As far as the logistics, that will depend on what bits you have. And depression can muffle the pleasure signals.
But focus on pleasurable touch of your own body versus "getting off." Like start with self-massage, even
Nah, some guys are just sad.
Ok, this makes it way more difficult. I...uh...I'm unsure how to instruct you to do so...Just watch some porn and learn that way. That's what I did, at least.