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Uncheck "Send notifications to Email" in your settings. Or get a 3rd party app with a notifications setting.
I don't get email notifications, but that number next to the icon changing is annoying. I have a few old responses that I've left "unread" on purpose, so I'm reminded to get around to dealing with them (look at some url or whatever). When the number changes, that means there are actual new responses, which after a day or two tend to be useless depending on the topic. So I'd rather shut them off.
If it's easier to delete the post guess what people will do.
How is it easier to delete a post every time than to set preferences to not be emailed just once, then you never have to again?
How do I do that for just that post? And how do I ignore replies for that post so I didn't get any other notices?
if you don't want replies, just don't post. everyone will be better off than if you are deleting posts. actually it's the easiest thing to do.
that being said. are you guilty of deleting your posts after they had discussions? because if so, I'll just block you because you are taking away value from the community, not adding to it
Somebody may want an answer and once they get it don't want the other replies to keep notifying them.
No I don't do this. But it's remarkable that all the lemmykins arguing with me and down-voting me simply can't see things from another person's pov.
I'm sure we can see that point of view, we just refuse it because it's such a mean pov
I mean... I don't disagree but you're arguing against somebody who is not here. I honestly don't know what you expect in response. If you want people to behave a certain way you can either:
a) Say they're stupid and change nothing and continue to bitch about the problem or
b) Understand why they're doing what they do and try to address it.
I thought it was obvious. I was arguing with you, because it seemed you were sympathizing with the user that regularly deletes their post. I was arguing that the reasons given are not good reasons. also this is not a DM, others are reading it too. evidence is you got a downvote on this comment, and it was not me. and most people lurking rarely vote.
why, what can I change?
apparently it was already fixed a year or two ago in a yet unreleased version of lemmy. so it seems a software change will not help in a reasonable amount of time.
tried, and it makes not much sense to me. nobody is receiving live notifications from lemmy, or if they do, that's because they use a niche client where they didn't turn them off.
but also.. starting a discussion and then not wanting to participate, so dropping a bomb.. that makes no sense.
Why don't you like getting replies? That's the fun part!
I see you've opted to just redefine somebody's requirements rather than solve their problem.
Honestly, it's my favorite argument tactic.
Do something once? Ew.
Do something infinitely? 🥵💦
sounds logical, the biggest logical, even
Ive never heard anything more logical in my life, and I am a cold unthinking machine running on pure logic
Checkmate
Your comment isn't popular, but we all know the rule: "the best thing needs to be the easy thing", since people will often choose what's easy and fast vs what's ultimately better. We see this in security all the time (hello-oo NPM).