Ask

Get shit done.

that works for me. look at local groups doing things you're interested, join and work with them.

I was a lifelong introvert, rarely had any friends. now I have a reasonably long list of people I really care about and admire and they like me too.

And it is work.

I joined a mutual aid and we cook and serve a lot, keep a community garden, do political work and organising.

sometimes it feels like a full time job, but it has been more than worth it. And the consistency is important. the difference between being a stranger in a group of people who know eachother and being part of that group is consistency.

and I get it, as a guy, it seems (might actually be) much harder to make friends. for starters half the population (women) see us as a danger by default (they have good reasons to, blame the shitty men in their past not them). and other men can be assholes.

my current social group is mostly female, they are amazing women and I'm not and will never take their trust for granted, although the bar is surprisingly low (not be a shitty person).

Go build your community.