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Despite not subscribing to political communities and having a large number of content filters based on keywords, my feed here is still for a large part all negative articles and ragebait. Elon Musk this and Israel that. Microsoft ruining windows, AI ruining internet, right wingers and capitalism ruining the world, police being racist and shooting innocent people, companies demanding workers into offices, privacy being under constant attack from all sides.. And all this despite the effort I go thru to block that from my view. I can only imagine what the unfiltered feed is like.

I get that this is all important stuff but holy shit it's depressing when that's all I read here every day. Sure, some of it is legitimately news worthy but lets be real here; much of it isn't. It's just to get you riled up and engaging with the post. It's the exact same thing all major social media recommendation algorithms are doing; feeding you content that causes outrage to keep you on the platform for as long as possible. Do we really need to know about every stupid thing Elon says or every police shooting where the victim is black?

It's no wonder so many people, especially younger ones feel absolutely miserable from day to day. It can't be healthy to live like this. I feel like this kind of media diet is pretty much equivalent to eating fast food every single day.

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[–] ickplant@lemmy.world 154 points 6 months ago (9 children)

That’s why I post pictures of opossums, bats, and raccoons…

[–] Pooptimist@lemmy.world 39 points 6 months ago

Thank you for your service!

[–] Badeendje@lemmy.world 14 points 6 months ago

Thank you for your posts. I love them in my feed.

[–] Alice@hilariouschaos.com 13 points 6 months ago

Ty for doing that

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[–] darthelmet@lemmy.world 108 points 6 months ago (9 children)

I am tired of living in a world with all of these problems. Whether or not I have the luxury to ignore them is besides the point.

[–] Thorny_Insight@lemm.ee 33 points 6 months ago (6 children)

Nobody is making the world a better place by paying daily attention to every possible thing that's wrong with it.

[–] motor_spirit@lemmy.world 44 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (3 children)

This sounds like the "don't make everything political" rhetoric which is naively hilarious. If you're encouraging moderation for the sake of mental well-being, sure - but that is just that, like many other things.

Information is a well; people will come and go. How much any one person consumes, like food and drink, is their choice regardless of consequence. You can argue diet, drugs, alcohol, entertainment, masturbation all the same.

Personally, I'd rather take on the mental burden of being informed over being as clueless as some. Ignorance leads to many problems, higher costs when you're not much of a problem solver etc.

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[–] JoShmoe@ani.social 36 points 6 months ago (1 children)

A counterpoint here, if people don’t talk about a problem, or in this case share, then the problem may go unresolved or intensify.

Multiply that by how many problems affect masses of people.

[–] kakes@sh.itjust.works 18 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Imo the problem is that social media is one of the worst possible places to foment political change, yet is by far the most popular.

If people actually have a shit about this stuff, they'd be out campaigning for it, or helping people affected by it, instead of just clicking a button and patting themselves on the back.

Not to say social media can't bring change of course, but I mean, the people posting the most are pretty much by definition doing the least.

[–] darthelmet@lemmy.world 9 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Part of the problem is the atomization of society. We've have vanishingly few truly public spaces to build the kind of connections with people necessary to form shared political causes. People spend most of their lives either:

  • In their private homes, suspicious of anyone who tries to interact with them there.

  • In private workplaces where management surveils employees and tries to stop organized activity.

  • In private businesses where you are only welcome as individual consumers.

  • Online on platforms that are privately owned and designed to manipulate behavior and social interactions towards interacting with more advertising. Controversy is only allowed to the extent that it gets more eyeballs on ads and doesn't upset advertisers.

Back when I was more involved in electoral politics, I found it extraordinarily difficult to reach out to people to organize them, either because they were in spaces where political campaigning wasn't allowed or because they have become distrustful of strangers.

It's suffocating any kind of broader public consciousness and I don't really know what to do about it.

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[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 41 points 6 months ago (6 children)

Even if you ditched the internet for a while, the real world is fucked and getting more so every day and the only way you still wouldn't notice is if you live in a little bubble completely isolated from the rest of existence.

[–] pavnilschanda@lemmy.world 19 points 6 months ago

I live in a country with multiple problems right now, but I've grown to be aware that the more I actively look at negative commentary on the current situation (most are online given anonymity), the more I get into panic mode, which clouds my longterm thinking of trying to get into a better situation (whether it's self-soothing, changing state policies by any measure, relocation, etc)

[–] Thorny_Insight@lemm.ee 10 points 6 months ago (4 children)

I disagree. On the internet it seems like the world is burning (and it kind of is) but outside in the real world sun is shining, birds are singing and people are being polite to eachother. Those two places are in no way equivalent.

[–] JeSuisUnHombre@lemm.ee 31 points 6 months ago

The world is actually burning though, and there are fewer birds, and people are tired and stressed all the time, and money is tight, and this is all in the real world, no internet required to experience any of that. The internet may expose you to others struggles that don't affect your real world, but it still affects theirs. The ability to commiserate is what helps a lot of people cope with their real world, and might even invite insight on how to end some of those struggles.

[–] BaldManGoomba@lemmy.world 18 points 6 months ago

In the real world your bubble is super small and it tends to be pleasant that is because you intake a lot less information and data about what is going on.

The internet and global community has TONS of information that someone focused on their life won't exactly notice. There is ways even on the internet to surround yourself with just positivity and fun. But the fact of the matter making people feel negative gets more clicks and drives more money.

Take a break enjoy your life. Check in on the internet occasionally.

[–] rockSlayer@lemmy.world 17 points 6 months ago (3 children)

The horrible things we see on the news, whether through traditional or Internet consumption, are being experienced by real people. The kids starving in Gaza aren't ai generated.

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[–] droning_in_my_ears@lemmy.world 31 points 6 months ago (3 children)

What do you expect? You're on lemmy. Half the userbase is doomers, dude.

[–] kionite231@lemmy.ca 28 points 6 months ago (1 children)

let's look at this in a positive way: "half of them are not!"

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[–] Obonga@feddit.de 25 points 6 months ago (1 children)

You are so on point. I come here mainly for chuckles, some light hearted discussion and memes but what do is see most? Rage, rage and more rage.

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[–] spicystraw@lemmy.world 25 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

Thank you for putting how I feel browsing Lemmy into words. I really hope that more wholesome communities can gain more traction soon.

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[–] splonglo@lemmy.world 25 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

IMO the issue isn't that there's too much negative content, but that there isn't enough of everything else. I'd encourage people to post, engage with and signal boost other kinds of content they're interested in. May just be that politics and social issues are some of the most popular interests in the community.

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[–] RealFknNito@lemmy.world 23 points 6 months ago (5 children)

Politics are dumb but very, very important. I'm exhausted, but I can't let that stop me.

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[–] originalucifer@moist.catsweat.com 22 points 6 months ago (2 children)

i get this way sometimes. the answer is easy; dont read it. its just that simple. if its only the headline in a list giving you angst, it feels like you might have other issues.

you said it yourself.. its a diet you feed yourself. its all in your own hands. dont read it.

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[–] rsuri@lemmy.world 20 points 6 months ago

We talk about positive things.

Like Linux.

[–] rufus@discuss.tchncs.de 16 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

In short: Yes. It's dragging me down, too.

I'd like to focus on positivity. I mean negativity comes with strong emotions and I don't want to get rid of it. But I'd like to see more positive things, too. People sharing side projects and nice things they've done and created. There needs to be a better balance. Because this doesn't depict life or the entire perspective.

[–] Nemo@midwest.social 16 points 6 months ago

I don't have that problem, especially on lemmy. My feed here is mostly about taking action, not doomerism.

[–] aasatru@kbin.earth 16 points 6 months ago

There's a genocide going on with what appears to be more or less the full support of the countries that make up the defence union my country is a part of.

There's war in Europe.

I find those topics worthy of discussion, and any social media where this is not actively discussed seems to me to be a smokescreen more than anything.

Of course tragic realities like the genocide we are complacent in, climate change, war in Europe, Russian propaganda and the rise of the far right is going to be actively discussed. It concerns more or less everyone who uses this platform, and they are the most important issues of our time. It's not about negativity, it's about coming to terms with reality and seeking to understand it.

That said, the communities I follow are largely apolitical stuff that interests me. Woodworking, knitting, gardening, owls, art, and the Fediverse. With the exception of !europe@feddit.de and !energy@slrpnk.net, I let the political stuff come through the cracks rather than actively following it.

I also have a Piefed account on which I follow news communities but actively filter out Trump and Musk. I can see how Amercians still feel the need to talk about these men, but at the end of the day they're just fascist attention whores.

[–] WhiskyTangoFoxtrot@lemmy.world 15 points 6 months ago (4 children)

I don't mind when bad news is posted. It's important to know these things. What bothers me is how the top comment is always some low-effort defeatest bullshit like "and there will never be consequences."

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[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 14 points 6 months ago (1 children)

The world is depressing, and if we just stick our heads in the sand and ignore it all because that feels better nothing's going to fucking change.

Sure, focus on positivity so you don't collapse into a depressive blob, but the idea that we should ignore the state of the world because it's unpleasant is terrible.

[–] Thorny_Insight@lemm.ee 17 points 6 months ago (1 children)

There's probably a healthy middle ground somewhere between the two extreme ends. "Sticking your head in the sand" is harder than you'd think. I go out of my way to try and avoid seeing these articles but I bet you couldn't name a single current event I haven't heard of.

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[–] Lucidlethargy@sh.itjust.works 14 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (2 children)

One of Lemmy's most toxic communities are the Linux people. I'm actually a huge fan of Linux, but the simple fact I use Windows as well constantly earns me personal attacks and extremely negative responses.

My solution (to this and many other issues you describe) is honestly to not read the replies any longer... I just say my bit, and I leave.

I've also taken to watching comedy shows that touch upon numerous topics of all the crazy shit going on. The Daily show has been a great outlet for me, and I'm not even a Democrat (I'm independent). It's just nice to see a popular form of media clearly states "yes, this is crazy. You're not crazy, THIS is just f*king crazy."

Edit: For example, Trump recently claimed he never said "lock her up" the other day to Hillary. I saw this on Lemmy first. John Stewart's reaction a day or two later was perfect, and pointed out the gaslighting taking place.

I just feel like you have to find ways to laugh at all this crazy stuff... So comedy shows help. Just keep your guard up whenever consuming politically charged media, of course.

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[–] deafboy@lemmy.world 13 points 6 months ago

I've unsubscribed from worldnews and technology yesterday. I couldn't bare to read yet another scareporn article pretending to be tech news.

The posts and comments were making me feel worse faster than the interesting information were making me happier.

I'll probably take a short brake and try to sort the news from clickbate and propaganda later, possibly creating a new, properly moderated community.

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 12 points 6 months ago

Yes I get tired of constant negativity, even though I myself do what I can to not contribute to it.

It’s exhausting

[–] fireweed@lemmy.world 12 points 6 months ago

I think it's because a lot of things are bad (and many are getting worse) yet the only power most people have to do anything about them is to raise awareness of the issues, which means engaging with negative news. Sometimes it can be hard to tell what's real news and what's rage bait; sometimes non-news can seem like news when it's part of an ongoing pattern (such as "Elon's dumb take of the day"). I think there's also some degree of trying to maintain one's sense of reality. To the previous example, despite being a massive fuckwit, Elon is still among the wealthiest people in the world, is incredibly influential, and has maintained some degree of fanboy army; posting/reading/discussing/upvoting an article about what dumb thing he said today is grounding for some folks because it reinforces reality by demonstrating that yes, he is still a fuckwit, even though somehow everything still hasn't come crashing down around him like it karmically should.

[–] cheddar@programming.dev 11 points 6 months ago

Yes, it's tiring. A lot of people and communities on various platforms are cultivating negativity, focusing on bad things. Even a simple meme about a cat can produce a comment section dominated by replies about how dangerous cats are for wild animals. Okay? Can we have a laugh because the cat did something silly?

I read that our brains are more likely to react to negativity, as that was a defensive mechanism in the past. But today, the internet can mess up our stimulus very, very badly. I don't even open most of these posts you've mentioned, I ignore them like white noise. You can't constantly bathe in that information and be mentally fine.

[–] Xeroxchasechase@lemmy.world 10 points 6 months ago (3 children)

I've discovered a way to overcome this: turn off the phone. It's not the content that is bad, it's our addiction to it.

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[–] bear@lemmynsfw.com 10 points 6 months ago

Yes. There's a widespread mental health crisis featuring anxiety, depression, narcissism, and more. Make good use of the ability to block, avoid, unsubscribe, etc. You just can't help everybody and you need to help yourself.

[–] jsmith23@lemm.ee 10 points 6 months ago

When you are a pessimist, your entire world view is negative. So, it's not really possible to get tired of that.

[–] over_clox@lemmy.world 9 points 6 months ago (3 children)

I didn't design it, but it's the face of reality.

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