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[–] waldek@lemmy.86thumbs.net 40 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (3 children)

~~!piracy@lemmy.dbzer0.com seems pretty active to me.~~

Sorry, misread privacy for piracy. I'll show myself out.

[–] spongebue@lemmy.world 18 points 6 days ago (1 children)

If it makes you feel any better, I thought the same until I read your comment

[–] Grey@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 6 days ago

This server is probably the best for privacy too FWIW

It says "nothing is here" when I click through. Do they block some third party apps like Voyager?

[–] ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com 19 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I would think the most privacy friendly would be to make a random user and not give out too much info. There isn’t anything else other than email. Hosting your own instance doesn’t equal privacy either as it’s super obvious since all content on that instance is from that user lol

[–] admin@lemmy.today 4 points 6 days ago (2 children)

I'm not sure, but I've heard that some instances log IPs.

if theyre smart, they dump their logs regularly. i think my instance is 36 hours. that data is a liability.

[–] ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com 5 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I think they all do in the logs.

[–] jaybone@lemmy.world 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Does each comment store the user’s IP address as well? (Like it would on other forum software?)

[–] Dave@lemmy.nz 3 points 6 days ago

The Lemmy software seems to only store IPs for login tokens (i.e. on login).

It's likely many instances store IPs short term in access logs as well.

[–] fuckwit_mcbumcrumble@lemmy.dbzer0.com 17 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Privacy and social media don’t go together. Logs of your IP are the least of your worries.

[–] lud@lemm.ee 6 points 6 days ago

Yeah, especially Lemmy.

Lemmy is apparently bad if you want privacy.

IMO IP logs aren't that big of a deal.

[–] skullgiver@popplesburger.hilciferous.nl 16 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Lemmy, and ActivityPub in general, is quite bad for privacy. To the point where I doubt it'd be legal for a company to host a server within the EU. Everything is handled by volunteers and amateurs. Privacy policies are bog standard or barely enforced. You have no idea what servers are using and selling your information, and any server can follow basically any community.

The easier it is for someone to create a new account after getting kicked or banned, the more likely it is that other servers will block that server and leave you with a near useless Lemmy account.

[–] Horse@lemmygrad.ml 14 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

hexbear probably
does not require an email for sign-up, does not store ip addresses, and (most of the time) you get posts removed or banned for giving particularly doxxable info
though if you aren't a communist you won't have a good time unless you have a humiliation kink

[–] admin@lemmy.today 7 points 6 days ago (1 children)

though if you aren't a communist you won't have a good time unless you have a humiliation kink

I don't want to make jokes but https://hexbear.net/post/4468531

[–] echolalia@lemmy.ml 5 points 6 days ago

For what it's worth, they have their domain back. It seems from a skim from the front page they're just deciding how to refederate (allow list or block list, basically they are trying to decide if they will automatically federate with new instances).

At the time of writing this comment the votes are close and allow list is winning (many commenters don't want to federate with new instances unless they are approved).

[–] TerkErJerbs@lemm.ee 11 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Given that all Lemmy instances are run by private individuals you should probably think about using a vpn (or dns proxy at the very least) to obfuscate your true location and data. This applies to any mainstream or corporate social media platform, obv.

[–] admin@lemmy.today 5 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (2 children)

Some instances block connections from VPN.

[–] TerkErJerbs@lemm.ee 2 points 6 days ago

lemme.ee doesn't

Lemmy.ml requires no email. The only person who can doxx you is yourself.

[–] eru@mouse.chitanda.moe 4 points 5 days ago

your own self hosted one

[–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 5 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

After proving that I wasn't a bot via Matrix, sh.itjust.works activated my e-mail despite having an obviously bogus e-mail registered, so that's a plus.

[–] Whooping_Seal@sh.itjust.works 4 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

What are your goals?

I would say it's really a combination of the instances policies and their jurisdiction, and in terms of jurisdiction it also depends on where you live (e.g. you may have more protections under law if the instance is hosted in your country)

There's also nothing stopping you from using multiple instances β€” siloing your interaction in different types of communities in different accounts on different instances. This may be useful if part of your privacy concerns are having all of your post / comment data on one account on one instance.

Edit: You can also use an email aliasing service to avoid even giving your email out. There are aliasing services such as Addy.io, Simplelogin (subsidiary of Proton AG), Firefox Relay (Mozilla), as well as some email providers which provide (iCloud, Proton, Mailbox.org to name a few)