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Every time somebody sends me a thumb I take it as "whatever you say you fucking dumbass" and it pisses me off.

And ya, I'm aware that that the replies are going to be thumbs, let's see em ya jerks!!!

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[โ€“] moakley@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I had this discussion with my wife a few weeks ago. She did that to a work colleague who took offense to it. I explained that that's because her colleague is about 8 years younger than us.

Basically, if the recipient is 35 and under, it's offensive. If they're 40 and older, it's not. Anywhere in between, look for context.

It has too much function to take it as a dismissive reply... unless it's obvious.

For work I use it all the time to confirm I got an email. I can see how it may ruffle feathers, but my other colleagues don't even confirm they got the message. Using the thumbs up also helps me organize what I need to do because half it is just in emails I gave a thumbs up to.

If I just replied ๐Ÿ‘ to this post, I can see how that would be bullshit but that's not how Im using it.

Its kinda like saying "sir" or "ma'am." Some people are too good for it imo and some people may have good reasons to feel uneasy about it, but to me it is respectful to use it as long as you aren't clearly a shit head.

[โ€“] dumbass@leminal.space 2 points 1 week ago
[โ€“] kattfisk@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 week ago
[โ€“] quantum_faun@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 week ago

No big deal at all

[โ€“] cl4p_tp@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 week ago

Oh wow. I thought only I had an issue with this.

[โ€“] NauticalNoodle@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I can respond with ๐Ÿ‘ and if people don't like it then next time I probably wouldn't respond to there texts with anything at all. The thumbs up IS me putting in the extra effort to acknowledge & respond to received messages. Also, it was my avatar on my previous college online profile.

Just try to remember that there is almost always more than one way to interpret a body of text even if it's a single character.

[โ€“] gon@lemm.ee 1 points 1 week ago

I totally get you! Whenever I feel that it could be interpreted that way, I don't send the thumbs-up. I do use it though, but I try to be careful to avoid that misinterpretation.

[โ€“] Zoldyck@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Yes. It frequently comes across as passive aggressive or as if the person doesn't care.

[โ€“] xorollo@leminal.space 1 points 1 week ago
[โ€“] Jimmycrackcrack@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 week ago

Just make sure you don't use it, or fail to clarify and confirm the meaning of its use, in a business setting or you could be in some trouble.

Most of the time, yes.

[โ€“] Crotaro@beehaw.org 1 points 1 week ago

It depend on the context/group.

At work, no biggie, it just tells me that you acknowledge my message and currently have nothing useful to add.

With my friends, who usually heavily rely on emojis and "oldtimey smileys" (like xD or y.y)? Ya, unless you completely eminate happiness and friendship, I'm concerned about your mood / standing with me.

[โ€“] lorty@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 week ago

The context will be more telling of if it's actually rude or not. There's a lot of chat software nowadays where you can "react" to a message with a thumbs up and people use it to acknowledge what was said.

[โ€“] teagrrl@lemmy.ml -1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Definitely is a rude reply. Zero effort and sarcastic.

I think depending on your generation and language you speak it can have different meanings.

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[โ€“] PiomPiom@lemmy.world -1 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Sounds like a you problem. An emoji is just that, context of usage defines it's meaning.

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