If they don't want to care about you they are not really friends. Doesn't matter they never have to do it, it's the principle.
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I agree but I'd also add that this doesn't automatically make them bad people, just people who aren't' compatible with you.
I'm not defending them, It's entirely possible they are bad people, but it's not a given.
What i mean by this is that it's not necessarily because of some flaw with you or them, it can just be that you don't match up right now(or ever).
I think it's important to understand that sometimes the only way to find out if you match is to try it and see, it sucks when it doesn't work out but the alternative is never really finding out if it could.
That doesn't negate the good times. I remember when I struggled to make friends, and most of my "friends" weren't really friends, but it was still better than nothing.
Are there are parts of the group that you are still comfortable with? If so, can you hang out with just those ones?
The thing is i didnt open up the same to everyone, and those who i opend up the most changed the most so i dont want to risk the rest of my friends from that group so i would still have to mask :(
Maybe you can tell them how they're making you feel? It's plausible they could be trying to accommodate you but in a way where they make bad assumptions rather than asking you. If so, maybe they'll listen.
At the very least, even if asking burns the friendship even more, you'll have some data to predict how someone might think in another/future friendship.
That's terrible ignorance from their side, I am sure you will be able to find more people since you already managed to. I don't have anyone like that for more than 3 years not even mates