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what even is reclaiming self-worth? (piefed.social)
submitted 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) by bluemoon@piefed.social to c/mentalhealth@lemmy.world
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i keep an ongoing self-sabotage streak with what good universe gives me, with little sense of self-worth, no place of security, feeling constant deja vu illusions about the future to not feel surprised in the present.

i never get angry because i feel unentitled to be that - my boundaries are scary to defend.

i keep pushing myself to not disappoint because it feels like life and death exclusion - yet i always fail what i set out to not disappoint with because i was running on steam.

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[โ€“] Paragone@piefed.social 3 points 4 days ago

The error is in the false-framing of "reclaiming self-worth":

it isn't reclaiming what one had, since what one actually-had was not what one needs, & was itself false-framed.

What one needs, is autonomous, independent, validity, & intrinsic self-worth, which never would have converted into self-hatred/self-poisoning/self-negation, etc.

So, one has to intentionally earn an independent kind of self-worth which is UNlike what one was brought-up in.

That is a claiming, not a "re"-claiming.

Think of it as being like letting-go of the pop-up-book childhood "reality",

AND intentionally-letting-go of the horror-novel "substitute",

in exchange for ACTUAL investment in one's future, because it isn't fundamentally-honest to hold the pathogen's perspecive of one's "worthlessness" so that pathogens can win more totalitarian dominion throughout the world, & one wants enough integrity to have NOT sided with the parasites/pathogen ideologies of this world.

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[โ€“] Bustedknuckles@lemmy.world 2 points 4 days ago

Another way to put the good comment above is that right now, you have given your self-worth evaluation to other people. You rely on them to decide how to feel about yourself. Reclaiming your self-worth is taking back that control and judging yourself by internal metrics rather than what you believe other people may think