I appreciate that this is an open source community where speech is more flexible which is what I was drawn to about lemmy but as with before I got banned on reddit, if I feel if my posts are embarrassing or show that they have no value to the people I am talking to, then I will remove them to not clog thread space.
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One of the admins on a previous lemmy server I was on absolutely cheesed me off (also, I donated to that server).
So, I deleted my posts to stop the server getting attention, especially a few of them were actively supporting the network
The admin was defending an absolute nutter who was admin on another server who was trying to shut down any opinions and discussions.
The rest of the admins were awesome, but after seeing that, it just felt weird to support them.
Mbin does have karma however. So it's not like it doesn't exist at all on the fediverse. Your karma is 1645 for me btw, though obviously depends on the posts of yours that have been federated to my instance.
~~Also, this isn't entirely correct about Piefed. It does actually have a karma system, it's just based on your up-/downvote ratio, not a number that ticks up endlessly. Some instances like piefed.social also have a hidden karma system that penalizes you for what it considers bad behavior iirc.~~
edit: the piefed part isn't actually relevant
Mbin does have karma however
TIL. that's quite interesting.
this isn't entirely correct about Piefed. It does actually have a karma system,
I'm talking about reddit-like karma system that is based on up/downvotes you have recieved on all your existing posts and comments. This is the kind that encourages you to delete downvoted posts to boost your karma.
Well when you're down voted on reddit they attack you and make you feel some kind of an odd sense of shame because of the hive mind that if you don't show conformity to, you're the odd man out and therefore, down voted to shit and nothing you say reached anyone because your comment gets hidden after being down voted enough times that it makes you feel like what's the point of even keeping it up if no one's ever gonna see it unless they get curious enough to click it to view the comment you wrote which might even have more value to the conversation going off the central point of the main question op asked, than you could imagine and again it makes you wonder why did I fucking even if no one gives a fuck to the point where what you said gets hidden. Not removed, hidden. That hurts.
So over time reddit culture teaches people to inadvertently delete posts when they feel as though they have no value and it sticks with people. That's why people delete posts. Is the unconscious muscle memory of deleting something they don't think anyone will care about.
Maybe it's about the karma for some people but to me if what to say has no value to the people I am trying to reach then I will remove it. Period.
Right, I forgot the Piefed system is about votes you give out while the Reddit system is the opposite, votes you receive. I mean I did remember, but I forgot to use my critical reasoning there and notice the mismatch.
Some communities are banning users for getting into mundane arguments with other commenters.
No they’re not
Are you sure people are deleting their posts? The last time this came up people went nuts making assumptions about the stupid things users were doing deleting their posts, and it turned out to be a mod.
If you are coming from reddit, how do you get your lemmy feed to stay as 'subscribed' instead of it always reverting back to 'all' (aka a pile of rubbish just like reddit)?
Click save at the bottom of the page.
The Lemmy web frontend (and other frontends as well) have a setting for which feed should be your default
I consider the downvote button to be the “fuck off” button, which I reserve for toxic comments or posts made in bad faith. I try to be generous with upvotes and sparing with downvotes, but some people here go straight for the downvote button and pile on more downvotes when something is already downvoted. If I see someone getting downvoted heavily who is acting in good faith, I’ll give them an upvote, even if I don’t necessarily agree. Otherwise, withholding an upvote is what I consider the correct response when I don’t agree or am not interested.
I do often delete my comment if I’m told to fuck off by too many people, mainly because it’s the first thing I’ll see in my client the next time I login, which will make me less motivated to engage next time.
You should be able to challenge the echo chamber or play devil's advocate without being downvoted into oblivion. It doesn't indicate a site is open to discussion and it looks more like a self gratification fest.
Occasionally I'll leave a flippant reply, realize i was being kind of an ass, then delete it because I've realized leaving it up may be doing more harm than good in some way. That's what downvotes are for IMO - it's like the immune system of Lemmy, pruning off the unwanted shit.
I believe, though, that this post is about the phenomenon of people making a post (not just a comment), then the post accumulates hundreds of votes & comments and the creator of that post hits delete for whatever reason. Which sucks because that wipes the post as well as the comments.
This is something that needs to be fixed IMO. One theory is it's done to collect training data, psychological or market research - something along those lines. This is one of those rare places on the web where authentic human responses from a diverse cross-section of people can be harvested. If deletion wipes out all of it, those responses are captured and gone from the internet before too many competing bots and indexers can get to them.
More likely because they get a bunch of hostile replies and downvotes and say "fuck it". They don't want to see it piled up in their notifications.
goes on a comment binge at 1:30am
wakes up to 20 replies in the notifications at 7:30am
what have I done??
can’t deal with other people’s judgement today
deletes all that shit
You delete your posts because of karma.
I delete them because they display my embarrassing incompetence for all to see.
We are not the same.
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What if I post a really stupid meme that I later regret
Better delete your account just to be sure. Then throw your browsing device in an active MRI.
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