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The statistics really are abhorent, and not just the heartbreakingly high share of women who have been assaulted but also that 95% of men in North America have tried to coerce women into sex

I hate society, but I love seeing new posts from you! I was really happy to see your name in my inbox this morning, Miisha <3

Algorithms, investors, capitalism....

The artist spoke about this on Reddit. Social media outlets automatically remove content with rape and ban the artists. She said she just can’t be bothered with the hassle so even though she dislikes doing it, she started self-censoring to comply.

Because everything has to be PG or people throw a fucking snowflake temper tantrum. Even though everyone knows the words they're obviously saying. It's like bleeping out cuas words on the radio. It's not like anyone over 4 doesn't know what they're saying.

As a side note I was an elementary teacher for a decade, your kids are sailors at school, even if you think they're angels.

kinda like the ISAIP episode, where Dee said dennis was 'raped" when he said he bedded an older lady at 14, then the realization sunk in for him after being confused for a second.

…I’m a guy, and I remember defaulting to “bragging” about having a 19 year old girlfriend when I was 14. That seemed socially appropriate because of the praise I got. My partner at the time apologized like that too and I , also, was confused.

When I remembered what happened the first time it was pretty bad.

I was spending the night at my friends house while both our parents went out and she was the “adult” in case anything would happen while they were gone. She kept walking by the door in less and less clothing.

Then I remember her bringing us some snacks and drinks in her underwear for our video game marathon which caught my attention. We intended to stay up all night so I was confused when my friend fell asleep kinda suddenly.

I wasn’t tired so I kept playing. She comes out into the living room in only a towel, and just came over and took it from me, like. No words exchanged or anything just kissed me on the forehead when she was done with me. My friend is still snoring.

Suddenly I wanted to spend the night every weekend. Same scenario though, my friend would zonk out after snacks and she would come in and use me up. Of course it took me decades to realize she was drugging her brother so she could do that to me. I thought she loved me so I started treating her like a girlfriend. My parents picked up on it and did nothing. Said nothing. Took me to go hang out with her alone often.

Even now it’s really disgusting to think about. She is no longer alive so I can’t really do anything or tell her it was fucked up.

I have a hard time connecting to people. I think that’s why.

I’m proud of your daughter, too 💕

Sadly, things like this happen to victims of all kinds of abuse. When I was a kid, my father would sometimes tell me about things that his father did to him. Eventually I recognized that he had suffered horrible physical and verbal abuse. His father, in turn, had lived a life filled with trauma. Instead of dealing with it, he unloaded all his trauma onto his kids who then unloaded their inherited trauma onto their kids, including me.

When I began to recognize this dynamic, It was like I could see the little boy, within my dad, who just wanted to be loved but instead was systematically destroyed; through no fault of his own. His capacity for joy and love were greatly compressed, and the void filled with fear and anger. I saw that I was just like him and I was horrified at that discovery.

Sometimes people try to run away from the pain and fear. I think that's why they try to pretend they're above it. Because it feels easier to malign people who share your experience, in order to try and pretend it wasn't real, than it is to face the pain and fear.

But until you face it, you will never escape it. It will always be there wreaking havoc on your life and lives of those around you.

Now here's the fun thing. The undue pressure it puts on men is toxic as fuck too. This doesn't benefit anyone!

It took my mom decades to see the truth about what happened to her as a little girl. She didn't tell my grandmother until a couple years ago. Heartbreaking.

It's one of the many reasons that blaming victims should be called out each and every time. It's imperative to be honest about these crimes and to believe victims when they come forward.

As a man, I can confirm this. It took me being raped (and a few years of bottling it up to even consciously come to the realisation that I was indeed raped) to do away with nearly two decades of indirect conditioning by "lad culture" and mass media et al to see why it goes unreported most of the time.

(mind you I was raped by a woman, AND the same woman falsely accused me of rape, harassment, and a number of other awful things)

If you do decide to looks it up, the reach term to find stories about this event is below