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[โ€“] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

lol yeah, the grey sticky stuff ๐Ÿ˜‹

me being autistic at the same time not knowing that was looked down upon: you gonna finish your fries??

[โ€“] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place 3 points 1 week ago (4 children)

yoooo, my first adult bed, furniture set, and laptop were from the trash. rich kids in college towns throw out the best stuff. it was a Compaq, and the only problem was overheating because it needed that heat sink lube.

[โ€“] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Is asking questions about basic things an ADHD thing? I thought it was an autism thing.

[โ€“] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Sounds like maybe it was an IQ test. I took two of those as a child to get into a program. One was with the school counselor and the other was with a psychologist that came to the school. I remember that one part of the test has a set of cubes. The sides were painted differently in red and white. The psychologist would then show me a picture that could be made with the cubes and I had to reproduce it by placing the cubes in a specific way while they timed me. Just found it making this comment. It's called a block design test and it's to measure IQ.

They also asked me seemingly random trivia, such as the definitions of certain words. There were other tests for the overall IQ, but I don't remember what they were.

[โ€“] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place 20 points 1 week ago (5 children)

Yep, already dropped of my mail-in ballot in person and received an email from the county election supervisor that my vote counted ๐Ÿค 

[โ€“] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place 1 points 1 week ago (7 children)

I swear, we are the ultimate scapegoats for bullies. I've been going through a similar experience for a while. It's like people try to find anything that they can criticize and use it to shame me rather than have an open and forthcoming discussion to address it. Being autistic, we're always guessing how to do things in a world where everyone else knows the rules, which are meant to be followed, and which are meant to be violated.

Au: You're violating a rule.

NT 1: Yeah, but it's okay. It's not a big deal because it doesn't harm anyone and everyone else is doing it.

Au: violates rule and gets caught because they thought that's normal and expected

NT 2: That is a rule. Why did you violate it?

Au: Because it doesn't harm anyone and everyone else is doing it

NT 1 & 2: So now you're snitching too?

Here's another one. You learn a rule and apply it in the situation you learned it. However, you didn't know it was applicable in other similar situations, so you don't apply it. People get upset with you because they have seen you apply it in the first situation, so you "should have known" and therefore need to be punished. ๐Ÿ˜ฎโ€๐Ÿ’จ

I don't care how you walk, talk, or breathe. You be you. Don't accept other people's shame being dumped on you. If someone makes you feel bad about yourself, tell them that you don't like what they do that makes you feel bad. If they keep doing it, stop being around them as much as possible. It's not your responsibility to help others process their shame. You are your main responsibility and already working with a disadvantage. Make sure you're okay โค๏ธ

[โ€“] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place 15 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I would censor the work f--k because it might come off like you're being passive aggressive and aren't really trying. Reminds of the time the actor that played Burke on Grey's Anatomy called the actor that played George a fa---t, then made a public apology saying he's sorry he called him a fa---t and that he wont say fa---t again, except he said the word. People got even more pissed, and I think he was fired from the show. ๐Ÿคฆ

I previously made a comment on how I've learned to apologize if you're interested.

[โ€“] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

ive been disconnected. what happened?

exactly what i was thinking about. it was such a tense and shameful period.

 

These might be the good old days. Go outside, feel the grass, say wassup to your neighbors,... whatever you do that means community, because sh*t might get bad for a while.

thx! updated the title ๐ŸŒณ๐ŸŒณ๐ŸŒณ

you got it, dude ๐Ÿ‘ถ๐Ÿ‘

 

Things in poor neighborhoods are done differently than in middle- and upper- class neighborhoods. People that grow up in poor neighborhoods develop behaviors, customs, and beliefs that are different from other neighborhoods because they are part of surviving in the struggle. When they move on up, some of those behaviors, customs, and beliefs are no longer necessary and can even be harmful (e.g. strong reactions to perceived attacks). Others may actually provide an advantage (e.g. living through power outages). Regardless, these changes can cause a sense of estrangement from their childhood and original culture, leading to some resistance. Given all that:

What did you change and what did you keep?

 

I've had my dog for 2.5 years now. This might seem like a silly question to most, but I'm kind of oblivious to some things that are obvious to most people (e.g. having allergies, knowing when I'm hungry, when I should go to the doctor, etc.) so I would appreciate helpful responses.

Signs

  • If my dog gets on my bed, I sleep poorly until I change the sheets.
  • If I sleep with my dog in my room, I wake up tired and like I had trouble breathing all night. It's like if my airway was smaller/tighter. I've already been assessed for sleep apnea and they said I'm okay.
  • Even without my dog in the room or on the sheets, when I sleep at home, I wake up pretty tired and it takes me a while to get going in the morning. This doesn't happen when I sleep elsewhere like at hotels.
  • If I clean up my house really well and change the air filter, it seems like I have more energy for a few days.
  • If I take a cetrizine (Zertec) or loratadine (Claratin), I feel a little better in the morning, but it's not like if I slept elsewhere. I don't feel fine, just a little less bad.
  • Basically, I'm always tired when I sleep at home.
  • If I pet a dog and touch my eyes immediately after, my eyes get itchy until I wash them out. This will happen with their saliva as well.
  • If I run my forearm across a dog's back from tail to head and the dog has thick fur, I will get hives from the fur slightly poking my soft skin.
  • If they lick my skin and I don't rinse it off, I may get hives too.

Contra

  • I'm mostly fine throughout the day with regards to what I assume are allergies. My nose is fine, and I rarely sneeze. It's only related to sleep.
  • My nose doesn't get stuffy like I see in other people.

Writing this out, it seems like it's highly probable. If so, what options do I have?

  • Could it be something else causing the sleep issues at home?
  • Is this a reason to see a doctor?
  • Are there meds that work better than Zertec & Claritin and wont make me feel funky like with Benadryl?
  • Do I need to accept that I can't have a dog?
  • Maybe I can make my dog an outside dog? But that seems terrible for a dog that's been inside their whole life and follows me everywhere I go in the house (she's a Rottie). I don't want to sleep poorly and be at 60% for another 10 years.

This is a lot ๐Ÿ˜ฌ

Edit: Alright, I've got an appt with the doc in 2 weeks. Thanks for the help, everyone!

 

If you never lived where it snows and were moving North to where it does snow, what would you have liked to have known? What would you do to prepare?

 

!sillydrawingrequests@lemmy.autism.place

An accepting, humorous, and social community to request and share drawings inspired by this post. No drawing is bad unless it violates the rules.

How to

  1. Make a post requesting a specific drawing.
  2. Respond to posts/requests by commenting their submission to the request.
  3. Respond to submissions as you please.

Rules

  1. Drawings must somehow match the request
  2. Do not submit your own drawing in a post. Instead, submit it as a comment to your post.
  3. Follow instance rules

Encouraged

  1. Fun enjoyable drawings without considerable concern for their quality
  2. Improvised drawings
  3. Ridiculousness
  4. Enjoyable praise and conversations
  5. Participation of users that are "bad" at drawing
  6. High quality drawings that are humorous or creative
 

Is there a bot for creating reminders on Lemmy? Say for example I see a comment that I would like to be reminded of in 3 months, I could reply to the comment with "remindme 3 months" or "remindme February 2, 2025" and on Feb 2, I get a direct message in my inbox reminding of the comment with a link.

 

Looking for the perspective of anyone that has lived anywhere in the USA and moved to Puerto Rico. What's it like, what's different, what's nicer, what was unexpected, and would you recommend the move?

 

With winter coming up, I have two options for home heating.

Central unit

  • I can use the central unit and close/open vents throughout the house to heat up only the individual rooms I want. This would heat up rooms very quickly. However, to make this work, the living room with the thermostat will also need to be heated so that the thermostat reads the proper temperature. The living room is by far the largest space at about 2.5 times the size of the largest room.

Oil-filled radiator

  • I can use an oil-filled radiator to heat up an individual room. This would be much slower, but I wouldn't have to heat up the entire living room. However, the oil-filled heater might not be as efficient as the central unit. I don't know. I plan to rarely heat up the living, no more than once per month.

Edit: The central heating unit is actually a heating kit made up of a few coils that is added to the central a/c.

Edit 2: Where I live, it might freeze once per year over night for a few hours.

Which would be more efficient on the electrical bill, and would t be considerable or negligible?

 

The universe is humongous.

  • The hard drive space is practically limited to the Big Bang on one end and the heat death of the universe on the other, but it contains all of the data for everything that exists. That's massive.

  • The RAM is massive because it's handling all the variables and changes of the present.

  • The cache is much smaller as established by the study that found the universe is not locally real. Things only happen once they are observed, but it happens almost instantaneously. Still, the cache is massive because it is handling everything that is being observed at the same time. That's a lot of things.

All of the above are massive extremes. However,

  • The processing speed is limited at the speed of light. In comparison to the others, the speed of light is soooooo ridiculously slow, causing a bottle neck.

PS - Massive because it's mass I've observed. Not really tho, you silly goat. Big bang while I swig Tang and watch a twig hang.

 

There's a guy at the gym I go to that's been making me feel a bit uncomfortable to the point that I don't like going if he's there. For example, I was going to go today, but I feel a little crappy so I don't even want to deal with it.

At first, I thought he was friendly. I was working out near him, and left my things to get water. When I came back, he said he thought that I had left without my things, but to me, it looked like he was trying to see what was on my phone. He always initiates the greeting between us, but he greets me like he thinks I'm a child. I also get the feeling that he is looking at me a lot so I try to face away from him most of the time. I might be sounding insane, but it's like he memorized my routine, and sets up near the spot I'm going to be at next before I get there. This is just a hunch though. I might be too sensitive with this stuff. Also, I've seen him bring friends to the gym. They're usually younger and smaller men, and it looks as though he is almost parading them around like he wanted everyone to see them together. Crap. Writing this out is giving me the creeps ๐Ÿ˜ฌ

Since he hasn't really done anything outright, I can't really say anything right? Like, "Hey bro. Are you looking at me?" lol. Would it be weird to talk to the gym staff and have them look to see if I'm crazy or not? But then they're going to think I'm crazy and starting problems if I'm wrong. Maybe ask a friend to secretly watch me workout to see if I'm making this up?

 

They think, "Jesus was cool. I like him, and I'm gonna try to be like him." Kind of like their guiding light is what would Jesus do? But there isn't a focus on identification, recruiting others, judging others based on their religion, fear of God, fear of punishment for sinning, respect for clergy as an authority, rituals, worship, etc. Basically, just the example of Jesus' life.

inb4: Christian lol!! got em!

 

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.autism.place/post/476283

I'm trying to see what we look like in NT settings from a 3rd person view. Most of the examples I know are shows about autism specifically, but I'm looking for a more natural NT setting type of thing.

Edit: Looking for a normal show in which one of the main characters are autistic, but autism is not the central focus. My brain feels like it's gunked up lately, so having trouble explaining things. Like trying to run in a nightmare. iassgdgdsflsfd

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