Chetzemoka

joined 2 years ago
[–] Chetzemoka@startrek.website 0 points 2 years ago

"merely bitching"

[–] Chetzemoka@startrek.website 1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children)

Excuse me? I have to save "incels" or the fascists will win? What is this nonsense?

Incel is not a word I would ever use to describe even one individual, let alone an entire group. You know why? Because I have more respect for people than that. Maybe you should too.

You literally said "men are helpless" and yes, you are correct that I am unable to help anyone who claims that they are helpless.

[–] Chetzemoka@startrek.website 3 points 2 years ago

raised on the values of romantic success being a requirement for a non-failed life

Literally having a conversation down thread with someone who thinks like this. It just mystifies me. I'm single by choice. I'm not asexual, I'm reasonably attractive. But I'll tell you I learned the very hard way that romantic relationships will not just magically fill that empty hole in your heart. You gotta learn how to do that for yourself even if you're married.

[–] Chetzemoka@startrek.website 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Bro, you are going to have a difficult life, if you think of existing in your community as solitary confinement. I'd advise you to go get involved in something. Go find a maker space to volunteer at, volunteer at the library, talk to your neighbors, join some kind of outdoor activity group.

You can do all of this while ALSO trying to date. You can (and should) do this kind of stuff even after you get married. You can't just sit around feeling bitter and expect a relationship to solve that for you. That right there is a perfect recipe for a relationship that will fail. You have to be your own person even when you're in a relationship.

There's more to "being social" than just finding a person to have sex with you and calling it a day.

[–] Chetzemoka@startrek.website 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (3 children)

Please point to exactly where I said that. It's fine to want a romantic relationship. But if anyone - man or woman or anything in between - defines their entire self-worth on that one single thing, then they're going to have a very bad time in life. Relationships end. People die. If the only thing you can see yourself as is the partner to another person and you lose (or can't get) that other person, then you're lost.

Work on being whole yourself and defining your value to and for your own self. Work, art, skilled hobbies, charity, friends, family. All of these things can provide value to your community. Find self worth outside of romantic relationships is the best advice for anyone in the world, even people who are currently in romantic relationships.

[–] Chetzemoka@startrek.website 5 points 2 years ago (4 children)

Lmfao, if you're not capable of seeing the gulf of difference between "hey man, never express any emotion ever" and "hey adult, take some responsibility for your feelings and work on yourself" then I can't help you.

[–] Chetzemoka@startrek.website 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

That's a political bomb though. This accomplishes the same end goal and is a strong enough warning to prevent similar markets popping up in the future

[–] Chetzemoka@startrek.website 16 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (14 children)

Feminism does not exclude men.

The media like to talk about how you now have sex at 11

What?

Now men are completely helpless.

WHAT?

How can you think so poorly of men, to believe their only purpose in life is finding a sex partner, and blame feminism for anything? Maybe learn to respect yourself and realize that you have value and things to contribute to this world that don't have anything to do with romantic relationships.

[–] Chetzemoka@startrek.website 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Get. A. Password. Manager. Dashlane is very easy to generate and save strong passwords for any site you shop on, plus it can save credit card details to autofill.

I haven't purchased anything from Amazon in three years. Getting stuff directly from the manufacturer is a better experience for products where you know what brand you want anyway. Bookshop.org for books. Best Buy for electronics. Wayfair or Overstock for home goods. It's genuinely not any less convenient when you consider the amount of trash and fake reviews you have to wade through on Amazon these days.

[–] Chetzemoka@startrek.website 28 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children)

It's not. It's a disingenuous way to enact early abortion bans that targets people's emotions, but is meaningless from a healthcare perspective. We don't treat heartbeat as the ultimate arbiter of "life" in fully grown adults; we use brain function.

If we want to apply a similar standard for determining the cutoff for elective abortions, it's more complicated because the fetal brain assembles itself slowly. Hearing starts to become intact some time in the late second trimester, but the capacity to experience pain doesn't develop until after viability (the point in development when a fetus can be sustained medically outside the womb.)

https://www.acog.org/advocacy/facts-are-important/gestational-development-capacity-for-pain

Even using those potential physiological markers can't be relied on to enact a full permanent ban without exceptions because a fetus can develop defects that are incompatible with life, such as severe hydrocephalus or anencephaly, which complicate the process of gestation and birth in such a way that a late term abortion may be medically appropriate considering the fetus will not develop the ability to live independently outside the womb anyway.

And the real kicker here: Doctors are already very good at making these kinds of nuanced distinctions and making decisions in consultation with their pregnant patients and their families. We do not need legal regulation to do what medical ethics regulations already do very well.

[–] Chetzemoka@startrek.website 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

something similar to the worst of the Byford Dolphin

That's why I qualified my statement. I think the fourth victim is probably the closest analog we have decent reference for. (No one was ever recovered from the Thresher, which also wasn't at this same level of pressure as Titan when it imploded.)

[–] Chetzemoka@startrek.website 32 points 2 years ago (5 children)

Terminator 2 didn't even feature a single shot from the actual movie in its teaser trailer. It was just that iconic:

https://youtu.be/h4ThFNL_2tI?si=ufRA5SzDH1f6uf8b

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