CoffeeTails

Babylon 5 :)

I prefer no sex-scenes tbh as they extremely rarely add something to the story. The implication or the first few seconds are more than enough. They only time I've felt that a longish sex-scene have added to the story is in Bridgerton when Penelope finally finds her love match.

I dunno if I'd call myself a workaholic, but I easily get stuck in the hamster-wheel when I'm stressed and the longer you are in the hamster-wheel the blurrier your surrounding gets and it gets harder and harder to stop the wheel to get out. I think your note made him step out of that wheel and he hopefully realized what's important in life. You, and living in the moment. So I don't think he hates you.

That is horrible

Me and my partner is just staying at home to chill and sleep

aah I see, thanks for clarifying :)

I'm glad you are making progress!

But the thing is, we all have routines as far as I know. Like what order we but on our clothes, or if we brush our teeth before or after that etc. All those things are routines. It doesn't mean I have lists and steps for everything. It's more that I block out rough time frames. Like, making and eating dinner usually takes around 1h 45min, so I plan for 2h to have some wiggle-room. Then I can move it around as much as I like, when needed. No problem. It's also a gradual thing. I didn't start with everything :)

But yeah, a few years ago, this would have felt super stressful for me too !

Well, thank YOU! :)

Yes, to keep things where they are used makes it sooo much easier.

I also forgot to mention that I use Swiffers for dusting shelfs and stuff. Might not be the most effective, but they are good enough and makes dusting a lot easier

I dunno if I have a 'low demand lifestyle' but some things I do or think about that makes things easier:

• I have alarm for when it's time to make lunch and dinner, which helps me relax or focus.
• I have an alarm for when it's time to go to bed. Not necessarily sleep, but I use that time to wind down.
• I plan my days roughly in a calendar; sleep, lunch, dinner, gym time. How detailed I am depends on how integrated it is into my routine. When going to the gym, I don't plan the time to walk there and home. But if I'm going on a family trip, I like to plan out in more detail.
• Routines and habits are more about doing things in the same order rather than the exact time every day.
• I order groceries every other week to the door. I still go to the grocery store 1-2 times a week tho but that's mostly for veggies or stuff I forgot to order.
• If it's worth doing, it's worth doing halfway.*
• Actually use things that help me, like nose-canceling headphones and stimming toys.
• We live in an apartment complex with shared laundry room, so I try my best to book laundry same day every week, that way I don't need to remember as hard as I have a laundry-day.
• I go to the gym on the same days every week as well. Those are my gym-days.
• We eat roughly the same things every day/week, I don't like to plan my meals too much and prefer to just wing it. I build meals by deciding on: a protein, some veggies, a starch (aka. pasta, rice or potatoes). I make we eat veggies at least once a day and preferably more than just some chopped onion.
• Only wear comfy clothes. I absolutely refuse to wear anything that is uncomfortable in any way. It takes way to much energy.
• Make cleaning easier. You don't need a special cleaning bottle for every area, with a special tool and everything color-coded etc. **
• I try to do some kitchen-cleaning every evening before bed. It has become a part of my going-to-bed routine. I also prep the coffee maker. If I'm going somewhere I prepare clothes for the next day, prepare breakfast and just as much as I can to make the morning easier.

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• Example: Say you need to do the dishes, but you only have energy for half of the dishes. If you only want to do everything or nothing. You'll have to wait... while more dishes pile up. Needing more and more energy to do them all. In the end you are forced to use a lot more energy than you have to clean them all.

If you instead think it's worth doing halfway, sure your kitchen might rarely be ✨Sparkling Clean✨ but your mental health and energy levels will be SO much better.

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** All you really need for cleaning your home:

• Bottle of all-cleaner, for most areas. Floors, dusting etc.
• I like to use dish-washing soap to clean the kitchen area, it's good at removing fats and safe if you accidentally don't rinse properly.
• A bad-ass oven cleaner, so you don't have to scrub for eternity!
• Toilet cleaner, for the bowl. You can use all-cleaner for the rest of the toilet.
• Window / glass cleaner. Although, if you have good micro cloths you don't even need that.
• A chalk-remover that you use when you get buildup from the water.

Tools:

• Micro-fiber cloths. There are different types and qualities.

  • Smooth ones are good for glass and other shiny surfaces.
  • Fluffy ones are good for all other areas, especially dusty or if it's many germs as they "catch" the germs.

• I like to use dish-washing tools to clean the kitchen. ( I kinda have a lot woops )

  • Sponge-cloth, a thin square "cloth" made from sponge, super absorbent and washable.
  • Dish brush and/or sponge (non-scraching) and/or sponge with handle
  • Fine soapy steel wool for those impossible spots

• Vacuum-cleaner (get one of those quiet ones, I can watch tv while using it, they are amazing.

• mop and bucket (not those flat ones)

• Nice to have

  • "spot eraser" sponge, a white, dense sponge, great for removing spots on handles, light switches etc.
  • "Edge brush", like this: https://www.stadbutiken.se/sv/artiklar/smartbrush-komplett.html but you can also repurpose an old toothbrush.
  • A broom-set, especially if you have pets or often get dirt on the floor so you don't have to pull out your vacuum cleaner all the time.
  • A rubber-broom to clean carpets with, especially if you have pets.
  • If you want to be fancy you can skip the vacuum-cleaner and mop if you replace them with proper cleaning mop that cleaning-companies use, like this: https://www.stadbutiken.se/sv/artiklar/swep-extramopp-50cm-rod.html but they are expensive.

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Well that turned into a wall of text. Woops.

Why tho?

I mean many pets shouldn't live in a small apartment. Few pets are ok with it. Some pets are okay with living in bigger apartments but then it's more about giving enough enrichment and outdoor or balcony time it it fits the pet