DakRalter

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[–] DakRalter@thelemmy.club 3 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

In my area of London, I'd say 80-90% of cyclists think red lights don't apply to them. I've even been sworn at by another cyclist for stopping at a traffic light.

The illegal ebike users are the worst. My ex saw one hit a woman with two kids, because he just zoomed past a red when it was green man at the crossing.

Cyclists are the reason I've gone back to public transport. I actually felt safer on my cycle commute on the high road with cars, than I did on dedicated cycle lanes 😞

[–] DakRalter@thelemmy.club 1 points 17 hours ago

You Winsome, you lose some.

[–] DakRalter@thelemmy.club 4 points 2 days ago

Being stuck in a traffic jam (that you're only contributing to) counts as freedom, whereas on a bike, you can just wheel your bike past the jam then be on your merry way.

Who has more freedom again?

It really does surprise me that letting a metal box insulating you from the world is what carbrains consider tough and FREE, whereas a bike, that you power with your OWN LEGS is sissy and WOKE! They have it so backwards!

[–] DakRalter@thelemmy.club 4 points 1 week ago

Living in London all my life, we grew up in a car-less household and my dad would do nearly all of the food shopping for our family of 6 himself (7 for a while when my uncle lived with us while he was studying), carrying it all home on the bus. I am still car-free and can get my shopping home using the bus or my bike on the way home from work. If you can't do that in your city, then that's the fault of your city's planners. It's a failure of providing good public transport.

[–] DakRalter@thelemmy.club 1 points 1 week ago

Now go look up how she even got British citizenship in the first place, and what she says about asylum seekers and immigrants. Hypocrite of the lowest order.

[–] DakRalter@thelemmy.club 11 points 3 weeks ago

In my experience cycling in London, it wouldn't be a bike lane without some doofus walking on it 😅

[–] DakRalter@thelemmy.club 2 points 1 month ago

Assuming they're just regular schrader valves, you don't need a special tool. You can even just use a pencil or ballpoint if you just want to let out the air. It's less risky for you than taking out the valve.

[–] DakRalter@thelemmy.club 1 points 1 month ago

I read on another thread the reason is the companies leasing the rolling stock are charging ridiculously high amounts, so the operators are running on tight margins.

For peak, I get it. But the off peak trains I was on were nowhere near capacity. So lower fares may have encouraged more people to use the train than the coach, which takes longer but is significantly cheaper.

[–] DakRalter@thelemmy.club 6 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

Let's hope nationalisation brings ticket prices down. I was happy to see the South Western is the first to be taken back.

Edit: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ceqg73znzzeo

The government cannot guarantee train tickets will get cheaper under renationalisation, as South Western Railway (SWR) was brought into public ownership on Sunday.

Oh well.

[–] DakRalter@thelemmy.club 5 points 1 month ago

He'd just use stabilisers, and call them some silly name like freedom supports or some other such nonsense. See? It has four wheels! Like a car, the best car, no one has a car like this. My doctor says I have a great sense of balance, the biggest balance, nice bank balance, nice bike balance.

[–] DakRalter@thelemmy.club 18 points 1 month ago (4 children)

It cost me about £60 for one return rail ticket last week 😭 that's not including the tube fare to get to the station.

[–] DakRalter@thelemmy.club 1 points 1 month ago

I was in Dorset yesterday and the difference between drivers there and here in London is big. Here they're happy to risk anyone's life to shave a few seconds off their journey. In Bournemouth, they were stopping at green lights to let us cross, even when there were no other cars behind them. I was keeping an eye out for cyclists too and the drivers were giving them room and stopping to let them turn, etc.

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Anxiety vs Overwhelm (neurodivergentinsights.com)
 

Warning: ranting.

Like many, I was fobbed of with an anxiety disorder NOS diagnosis. I assumed that what I felt was anxiety. Last autumn I got to the top of the waiting list for anxiety therapy.

And it was useless. It got to the point where it felt like the therapist was trying to push low self esteem onto me so she could cure me of it, and thereby cure my anxiety.

I tried to explain to her that my anxiety wasn't based on irrational thoughts, but experience. If I have to go somewhere I'm not familiar with, I will get overloaded with all the new input. I will struggle to process it because I need to be alone to process. The same applies to my feelings. I can't deal with them when I need to, because I can't identify them. So all this makes me scared because I know it will exhaust me or make me shut down. I just see this void when I don't have any reference images. The more I can fill in that picture, the less anxious I feel. Because I can process this in advance (eg using streetview to memorise a route and save landmarks so I can navigate).

No, she says. It's because you have low self esteem. Now write down some bad statements about yourself and say them out loud.

In my quest to educate her, I came across this article and it makes so much sense why CBT wasn't working. The anxiety diagnosis doesn't fit.

Even after asking her to learn about autistic anxiety, she didn't bother. So next session I gave her a printout of that article. Something told me she wouldn't bother to learn anything from it, so I discharged myself.

Is what you're feeling anxiety or overwhelm? Does the anxiety come because you know from your own experience that something will cause you to struggle? Is the feeling more akin to dread?

 

Someone on Mastodon shared this link with me, and I thought you might find it as interesting as I do.

I really hate the misconception of the spectrum. It enables nasty people like Ellen degeneres to justify being a bully (in case you missed it, she tried to get diagnosed autistic. When that didn't work, she said, well it's a spectrum so we're all a little autistic, so I'm not a bully). And enables others to dismiss our struggles, cos hey, we're all on the spectrum!

Back to the article, I feel like I'm a mix of the three examples. I can see some that match from each example. How about you? When I stop feeling so lazy, I might do my own custom one.

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submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by DakRalter@thelemmy.club to c/dodgers@fanaticus.social
 

What was your favourite moment of the game?

 

And there's still this much battery left. A surprise to be sure, but a welcome one. I wasn't expecting it to still have any power left at all. I suppose with the sim out, all it was doing was powering the clock, but still! Unfortunately, I've had to retire it as my network won't connect on it anymore.

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