I read your comment thread this morning and it's been bouncing around my head all day. I agree with you, and there's something I can't quite put my finger on about how everything online is so serious and black and white. If you do something wrong you're evil incarnate and you deserve instant excommunication.
Your comment being so heavily downvoted is a good example. I think your stance is the most reasonable, and I think if this all played out in the real world you'd have a vast majority of people agreeing with you. But for some reason once it's on the internet you're unanimously wrong and it's not up for discussion.
I've been on the wrong side of an "am I the asshole" post one time and it was bizarre seeing the anger of people on the internet compared to the relaxed opinions of real people that heard the story. I wish there was a term for this phenomenon because I see it everywhere. Terminally online people who can't just see nuance and realise that we all do stupid shit.
I don't really have a point but I thought I'd let you know you inspired some thought in a single person from the void.
I'm the same, I have an active life and don't take it seriously. I find it easier on Lemmy because you can put it down to a crazy instance and you can't see your overall upvotes so nothing matters! Me and my friends enjoy going back to my AITAH post to laugh at the insanity of online people, it makes a great party story. Keep posting sense!