Libra

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[–] Libra@lemmy.ml 4 points 6 months ago

Two things.

  1. He will get over it. Yes you need to have a conversation with him, but give him a little time to cool down or all you will get is anger, not his true feelings.
  2. If you cave on something this huge he will expect you to cave on everything. Even putting aside the ethical implications of abortion which I definitely don't want to hash out here, terminating a pregnancy to keep a teenager from pouting is an extreme step.

It's important to understand his reaction before you try to address the issue though. 'Traitor' is a rather specific accusation, who does he believe you have betrayed? Sounds like he has never known his mother so I dunno how he could imagine you're betraying her. Does he feel betrayed because he is an only child and now will have to share your attention with a baby? Is this a situation where you've not had a lot of time for him, especially lately? Understanding this will help you guide the conversation when you have it, to address his specific concerns. Make sure to ask lots of questions rather than making assumptions, and don't take 'I don't know' for an answer. This is a rather extreme reaction to something he should've realized was at least a possibility for a long time, something is driving it, and until you understand what that is you will be walking in a minefield.

As for how to broach the subject.. my suggestion is to find something you normally like doing together and do that. Don't make it about the conversation, just make it about spending time with him, and as long as the activity itself isn't too distracting the conversation will surely come up on its own. If it doesn't you can raise it gently at the end of the activity or whatever.

[–] Libra@lemmy.ml 14 points 6 months ago (11 children)

Well, I see the NYT has certainly evolved with the changing times. Where once it pretended to talk about issues faced by us all it has now apparently retreated to the much more financially-secure world of providing ethical cover for landlords who profit from human suffering. If this is a 'war on immigration' these guys are literally war profiteers. Definitely 'speaking for the people' there, NYT. No, in case you were wondering, the word 'rich' does not in fact belong inside those quotes.

[–] Libra@lemmy.ml 29 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (5 children)

Er, evolutionary psychology is a whole field of study with its own journal with hundreds of published studies. If you're going to claim that a whole branch of psychology is racist you're going to need to provide some evidence to back those claims up, because that wikipedia article has nothing more damning in it than the following suggestion that there are critics who think there might be some ethical problems with how it's sometimes used, but that's not a condemnation of the value of the science itself.

Critics have argued that evolutionary psychology might be used to justify existing social hierarchies and reactionary policies. It has also been suggested by critics that evolutionary psychologists' theories and interpretations of empirical data rely heavily on ideological assumptions about race and gender.

But that's like saying a wrench is a weapon because it can be thrown at someone's head; that's problem with the user, not a problem inherent in the tool.

[–] Libra@lemmy.ml 1 points 6 months ago

Yeah, I love their covers too, and I'm normally not much of a cover fan.

[–] Libra@lemmy.ml 19 points 6 months ago (12 children)

Hm, I generally had a decently positive opinion of Pinker. Is this a case of him not knowing what this was and getting ambushed? Or did he know what was up going in?

[–] Libra@lemmy.ml 2 points 6 months ago

I'm not normally a big flute fan, but the flute solo in Locomotive Breath by Jethro Tull is fire.

[–] Libra@lemmy.ml 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Holy shit I didn't know a hurdy gurdy could go that hard.

[–] Libra@lemmy.ml 3 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (2 children)

I love horns in music, especially the trumpet. It's why I'm a big fan of Cake, they have a prominent role for the trumpet in a lot of their songs. The best has to be the trumpet solo in Italian Leather Sofa (starts around 2:10) but they have other great ones too.

[–] Libra@lemmy.ml 2 points 6 months ago

I'm happy to help, and I wish you the best!

[–] Libra@lemmy.ml 33 points 6 months ago (2 children)

As someone who used to have a bad case of wanderlust for the same reasons, let me just say: the place where you belong is not a place out in the world that you find, it's a place that you make inside of yourself from your satisfaction with your life, your connections to others, etc. What you seek can be found anywhere, but nowhere will make you happy until you do. Travel is a heck of an adventure and I have a lot of great stories from that time so I'm not saying don't travel. Just don't expect to find what you're looking for wherever you go or you'll never be satisfied with the experience in itself.

[–] Libra@lemmy.ml 17 points 6 months ago

Musk feels like he bought a president and should own him outright, Trump feels like he's renting a timeshare on the oval office and Musk is taking up too much of his 'allotted' time.

[–] Libra@lemmy.ml 2 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

The ones who care more about securing funding and winning elections than having principles. By which I mean party leadership.

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