Idk, I'm from Europe
Natanael
Have you talked to your therapist about signs that you may be a white dude?
If you find an expert who agrees you don't have a severe enough case to need treatment then they won't necessarily formally diagnose you (your record would still show you've had the evaluation but not the diagnosis).
It's a spectrum. Talking to an expert can help you figure out on what range of the spectrum you're in and how to better deal with it.
It's not a competition :/
Besides all the other stuff mentioned, you can invite them to stuff occasionally and prepay everything. Make it a family event if you want to.
Plenty of family subscription services too (including for some of those your listed), although distance limits might come into play for some family subscriptions
Degree of certainty is the difference
The police regularly dismiss unfounded reports without additional action, it's how they're supposed to respond. They're not supposed to tell people "this thing you're doing is neither illegal or harmful and the people who got upset had to search for it to find it, but they did get upset so you should stop"
You need to set up a publicly accessible device (in this case the VPS) as your IPv6 gateway
So you set up your VPN connecting your network to the VPS (should probably be set up from the router) and set your router to advertise an IP adress for the VPS which is routable from your local network as the gateway address (and should probably also run DHCPv6 for your network)
(note, I have not set up this stuff myself so I can't help with implementation details)
More ambition, lol. The K9 Mail app now has backing by Mozilla
Spicy pillow