Oszilloraptor

To prove your point, please dox yourself.

I'd be interested in your full name, address, your phone numbers, your email adresses, birth date and credit information (which is probably in the order details)

What difference makes a year or two

I don't disagree with the point that it shouldn't need to be this way.

But it is what it is; and it's live saving medication that has to come from somewhere.

People are fighting to tackle the problem officially; but they also have to somehow live in the meantime.

Almost all trans people would prefer a prescription and medical supervision above having to pay themself and guesstimate the doses without proper bloodwork. But some just don't have any alternatives.

And to be clear: I will always recommend people to try the official way first. local transpersons that asked me for advice all got a "I can help you get therapy; I can help you to skip therapy and go the indication route; I can reluctantly help you skip indication and go the informed-consent-route without psychotherapists but still medical supervision, even tho I really discourage that unless your transidentity is obvious since many years; but I will not help you to get DIY (without medical supervision) unless you tried the official approaches, sorry".

But for some people, there is no other option than DIY. Getting a place for therapy can be really hard, and some countries have no alternative routes to get a prescription with medical supervision without going through years of therapy first.

(Btw, I don't know how the laws are in the UK. I'm from germany. But the problem is the same everywhere. I got lucky to be able to get a prescription, tho; but I know a few people that weren't)

And check if the lockpickinglawyer already tested said trigger lock.

It's not my area of expertise; but the ones he tested were far from safe.

Yes, but it's a bit hard to get; even in countries that try to improve trans-care rather than reduce it.

There are just so many therapists; the waiting lists are sometimes simply closed because they stretch years.

For many people, these hormones mean the difference between a livable life and extreme dysphoria, depression and suicidality.

If they could get them on the regular way, they would. But the regular way is often full of problems. So some people have to fall back to just do it themself.

I even heard of doctors who do some medical checks under the counter to ensure everything is done as safe as possible (but aren't able to prescribe hormones themself without prior psychotherapeutical indication)

So; your point would be valid in theory, but unfortunately for many trans-people, it's the only way to get their possibly life-saving medication.

Probably AuDHD (both)

I assume they mean something like:

Every time I switch to DDG, I tend to discover things that I can't find on google because they just don't pop up in googlee results

Depends on the granularity you want.

This sounds like you could fit under the "non-binary" umbrella, but there are many subcategories. Maybe genderfluid .

Or maybe you're cis but just don't see a use in following gender-stereotypes.

But in the end, getting lost in labeling is not needed. Just be you. ^-^

just a few strategically positioned landing legs should suffice

It's a somewhat-common term (at least in my sub-bubble) for individuals with PDA traits.

I got the term from the PDA societies flyer (here in germany PDA is quite unknown and one of the best ressources in german is the german translation of that flyer. sad...): https://www.pdasociety.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/What-is-PDA-booklet-website-v2.1.pdf

I cite:

The giant panda is our ambassador, since they also need a tailored approach in order to thrive, and the letters P A N D A also provide a useful summary of helpful approaches …

PICK BATTLES

• minimise rules
• enable some choice and control
• explain reasons
• accept that some things can’t be done

ANXIETY MANAGEMENT

• use low arousal approach
• reduce uncertainty
• recognise underlying anxiety and social/sensory challenges
• think and plan ahead
• treat meltdowns as panic attacks: support throughout and move on

NEGOTIATION & COLLABORATION

• keep calm
• proactively collaborate and negotiate to solve challenges
• fairness and trust are central

DISGUISE & MANAGE DEMANDS

• word requests indirectly
• constantly monitor tolerance for demands and match demands accordingly
• doing things together helps

ADAPTATION

• try humour, distraction, novelty and role play
• be flexible
• have a Plan B
• allow plenty of time
• try to balance the amount of “give and take”

Demands for a panda can be everything, way more than what a neurotypical or even non-PDA autistic would intuitively assume.

The name PDA in itself is misleading, a bit. Yes, it's the most visible symptom, but not the cause.

It's- at least in my own personal experience and some other pandas - more about the expectations of people around us and our autonomy.

(that's why it's Also sometimes called "Pervasive Drive for Autonomy")

We kinda need to be in control of ourselves at all time. We don't want people to decide who we are and what we do. Up to a paradoxical level where doing what people want can cause us stress and these people don't even have to be anyone else than ourself.

That'a why I dont like gifts. People expect me to be happy. And even if it's a good gift... I just don't like it how everybody around me expect me to be happy.

Understanding what each panda sees as something to avoid is a tough task, as my girlfriend could tell you. But if one is accepted for differences and compromises are seen as good enough, then everybody can be a bit happier.

Example: I cannot (unless I really force myself) put the garbage in the garbage bin. I always make a few piles sorted by material on the table next to the bin. My gf does not think "This stupid person, never putting the garbage where it belongs", but "Nice, Person has cleaned up the room and put the garbage here for me to throw away". Something that is called a "demand compromise" in literature.

I recommend to watch the following video: https://youtu.be/_abB44rPqEM

(keep in mind that he is one single autistic individual and PDA is a spectrum in a spectrum.)

I can also recommend some videos of "I'm Autist, now what?"

In general I may suggest to seek resources of adult pandas. Medical literature, especially on PDA, is mostly from the outside with nobody ever listening to the actual autistic individuals. And surely much of what they tell from their live is also applicable to children.

Regarding the meds, yeah, I thought something along the lines could be the case; that's why I initially didn't want to recommend too much from my side: I simply don't know all the chemicals and therapies etc; all my knowledge comes from adults.

All my meds were just the "usual" stuff (cough, fever, pain)

Therefore: I guess I cannot help you on your initial question at all, but may this text and these videos will give you a better understanding on what different pandas might see as demands.

To add to this aspect:

Pandas are especially prone to reject conventional therapy, because therapy is a demand: "Healing begins now".

Same thing goes with medication: "We expect you to get better after taking this"

For myself, the best thing is to just let me do my thing. Put the meds somewhere where I can see them. But don't expect me to take them. If they'll help and you're away, I may decide I take them, but because I want to, not because it's expected from me.

But that also means: If I myself feel better without the meds, I won't take them.

(but I'm a high masking late diagnosed panda and in regards to PDA/ADHD unmedicated, therefore I have no expertise with medications of panda-children or how parents would handle that.)