Not everyone has a great home life, and there are absolutely situations where the right answer, even for stuff that's quite serious, is to not say a word to the parents.
And that's ignoring the point everyone else is making regarding having someone that the kid trusts, so that when they screw up badly, they have someone that they are willing to call or tell about it, instead of trying to hide it from everyone, letting stuff get much, much worse.
A whole lot of this can be summed up like this: Sometimes, there are no good answers, and you only have the choice of different kinds and degrees of bad ones.
In this case, I think OP made exactly the right call.
Can she get another vape pen? I mean, let's be honest, she probably already has.
But now she knows that if she gets into a much worse situation, she has an adult who is both willing to call her on stuff, and who isn't going to do something to make it worse.
She's 14, that's both old and young enough to do stuff with people that she's not supposed to, in places that she's not supposed to be, and for it to turn into something bad in a hurry.
Not everyone has a great home life, and there are absolutely situations where the right answer, even for stuff that's quite serious, is to not say a word to the parents.
And that's ignoring the point everyone else is making regarding having someone that the kid trusts, so that when they screw up badly, they have someone that they are willing to call or tell about it, instead of trying to hide it from everyone, letting stuff get much, much worse.
A whole lot of this can be summed up like this: Sometimes, there are no good answers, and you only have the choice of different kinds and degrees of bad ones.
In this case, I think OP made exactly the right call.
Can she get another vape pen? I mean, let's be honest, she probably already has.
But now she knows that if she gets into a much worse situation, she has an adult who is both willing to call her on stuff, and who isn't going to do something to make it worse.
She's 14, that's both old and young enough to do stuff with people that she's not supposed to, in places that she's not supposed to be, and for it to turn into something bad in a hurry.