I think it's best to encourage people to go see professionals if they suspect they might have a disorder or any kind of illness. But I think it's detrimental to tell them they are just imagining things as this might lead to serious issues flying under the radar.
Let the people decide who studied this.
Alright, please link your peer-reviewed study on this as soon as you were able to prove the generality of your personal impressions.
but it feels like everyone today needs to have some mental illness or disorder
What causes this impression?
You literally said:
Maybe in your desire to feel special
That is condescending.
you've got a better chance of being wrong than you do right
Although that "feels" reasonable, I wonder whether we have actual numbers on this.
it is wrong to want to be spoonfed your computing needs
Why though? It's not like you are building your own OS every time on assembler level, or do you?
Making software more convenient is one of the reasons for having software at all.
That doesn't mean turning it into an "opaque box" where company interests will be pushed. Having a more user experience oriented design in Linux distros can save a lot of time and frustration as well as make it more attractive to average users. Even power users, who work with Linux professionally will benefit.
And it just might start with something as simple as proper documentation of a package.
FYI: the packaging is not edible.
Exactly. There are so many who don't like tofu. Like my mother in-law, who just took a bite of raw tofu and came to the conclusion it's not for her. Yeah, no shit.
My wife and I then spent some time serving her various recipes, where tofu is one of the main ingredients. And now she likes it.
I like, what my wife says about tofu: it's like a blank canvas. You have to paint it with spices and various cooking methods to make it beautiful.
Another comparison are Mozzarella cheese or noodles. Bland and boring on their own, but great in combination with sauces and spices.
... Now I wan't to eat the "scrambled tofu", my wife sometimes cooks. It's fucking delicious.
Shouldn't be so frustrating in the first place.
Yes.
Open and honest communication. Just say that you're not interested in the game.
If the host gets passive-aggressive you could try to talk civilised about that. In case they don't show the necessary understanding or are difficult to talk to, they might not be the kind of acquaintance you would like to keep.
It seems to me that you are approaching this complex topic from an oversimplified view. Human behaviour isn't as simple as you put it.