ZombieTheZombieCat

There's this short series on Netflix called Unbelievable. I recommend every single person watch it, but especially anyone who wants / needs to know exactly what it's like to try to report sexual abuse to the police. It's dramatized but it's based on a true story of an 18 year old girl who was sexually assaulted by someone who broke into her apartment in the middle of the night. From the minute she reported it she was treated like a criminal. She was interrogated by cops who criticized her from the second they sat down. She ended up being charged and convicted of making false police reports. She was in some kind of group home at the time. She got in trouble, lost her friends, home, supports, and job. Several years later, the suspect assaulted another woman and was finally caught. I can't imagine the relief and vindication she must have felt. Except that the cops literally allowed the suspect to assault at least one more person before doing anything about it. It's a good thing it happened in another state because if it had happened in the same place they probably would have just arrested the second victim too.

But the depiction in the show is true to life. It's for everyone who has ever said "well if it actually happened then why didn't they just call the cops?"

I am just saying that this burden shouldn't fall on other people in material need.

Well, good thing it doesn't in this case.

The whole point is that everything in this field is already, by default, directed at men. That's what it's like in the US. It's the same with race. And saying we have have equality when we don't is just ignoring the way these divisions affect historically oppressed groups. Acknowledging systemic hierarchy and division between races and genders in order to fix it doesn't automatically mean you have to ignore class divisions. They're far from mutually exclusive. Why would it be impossible to acknowledge both at the same time?

It's to the point where no one else can have anything without men going "what about me and my problems?" "Well here's what I think about all these social issues that have never and will never negatively affect me." As usual, the "not all men" of every comment section of every article about a women-only-something-or-other are just making a great case for women-only-something-or-others.

this seems the completed detached thought of someone who never faced material difficulties.

Yes, all of your comments do.

Yeah, wasn't this the whole point of capitalism or something? If you can't compete in the free market then gtfo and all that

Have you ever heard of Brock Turner, or maybe Johnny Depp? Good luck getting any women to go near you though.

Besides, these sentences are insane in general and modern first world societies (meaning not the US) do not focus on punishing people like we do. They focus on rehabilitation because it's a service to society, because they actually give a shit about their societies. So the fact that anyone can think that fifteen years of being locked in a cage getting angrier and angrier with no psych help and shit for healthcare "isn't enough," really says something about the people who endorse that.

She gets to have a life after those 8 years.

Having a life after a criminal conviction in the US is not a thing.

What does calling the cops on neighbors have to do with a manslaughter trial though. There can be people who have a legitimate reason to do that, and then there's those people who are calling the cops every other day, but it doesn't specify. It's just kind of comical that that would be used to somehow legitimate a completely unrelated manslaughter conviction.

Absolutely. There has to be some little glimmer of already wanting to quit for them to take the help seriously. I would absolutely recommend AlAnon as well. You can't just force someone into treatment, and that's pretty much what interventions try to do, on top of making the person feel guilt and shame which likely is why they drink in the first place. Being able to have a one on one, calm conversation about how the person is affecting themselves and others is probably a good route, because people often do not recognize they have a problem in the first place. It would not be surprising for it to end with the person getting angry and storming out, but it plants the seed in a more reasonable way than having everyone they know cornering them, humiliating them, and saying "go to rehab now or we never speak to you again."

Source: in recovery, worked in the field.

I just noticed the other day that when I clicked on a seat I wanted, it took me to another page where it had a toggle to turn on "show ticket prices with fees included." I bet that's how they get around that. I even thought when I saw it how shady that is because it only shows up after you've already found a seat you're interested in, but you're not quite at the checkout yet. It somehow makes it worse because it's so fucking blatant.

It's really disingenuous to compare US-only data to unrelated generalizations of other countries that function under different cultural and economic systems. But I feel like you already know that.

There's a lot of Americans who aren't having a great time here. I don't think negative commentary about the US is one hundred percent Europeans' fault. Nor is it just that we're "vocal" about things, which is really a positive since it's the only way to create change anyway.

For example. I just saw a local news story that cops in a major SoCal city are arresting/citing/fining people for just...being homeless. They want them to go to shelters, but they admittedly don't create enough shelter space. So it just becomes illegal for certain people to exist. The city gets pissy and aggressive about homelessness being a problem, when they're the ones who created it and are the ones who refuse to fix it. Sure, give a homeless person a record so that it's even harder for them to get jobs and approved for an apartment, and then fine them knowing they can't pay it, resulting in doubling late fees that put them in debt. Sounds they really care about fixing the issue, great fucking job. But think about that - it's against the law, it's a crime, to not have a mortgage or rent payment. I've been hassled by cops for sitting in my own car in a grocery store parking lot. There is no public space. You have to buy something to be allowed to exist outside of a park, and in coastal places like SoCal, you have to pay to be in those too. And yes this was in one city, but it's applicable to almost every major city in the US, even if there's some variations in local laws. It's just an example of how disposable human beings are here. The minute we don't have labor to sell, the minute we stop consuming, we're thrown the fuck away. And that's not just an economic issue, it's a cultural issue as well.

The immigrants who come here stick around and spend 15 years to become citizens, if it was that bad, they'd turn around and go home.

I think many of "the immigrants" actually do.