danhab99

I’ve noticed a pattern in my friendships that I’m struggling with, and I’d love to hear other people’s perspectives.

Whenever I suggest something I genuinely want to do with friends, the plans always get changed around — often to fit schedules or budgets — until they no longer resemble what I originally suggested. By the time we meet up, I usually don’t enjoy the activity itself, though I still value being with my friends.

This cycle tends to repeat:

I suggest something → it gets reshaped into something I don’t want → we meet up but I’m bored/miserable → then we don’t talk for 6–12 months until someone breaks the silence.

Recently, I’ve made a change: I started doing the things I enjoy on my own, without waiting for friends. For the first time, I’ve actually been happy doing what I love — but it also means I’m doing them alone.

Part of why I’m trying this is because I’ve lost friends in the past from being visibly miserable all the time when I adapted to things I didn’t actually like. Honestly, it feels like for most of my life I never really chose my friends — I just adapted to the people around me. Now, I’d really like to choose friends who genuinely align with what I enjoy.

So here’s my question: Is it wrong to want to choose my friends? How do you balance doing what makes you happy with maintaining friendships, especially if your happiness and your current friend group don’t line up?

Any thoughts, advice, or personal experiences would be really helpful.

"What's your go-to tool as a programmer these days?"

My brain, same as it always has been!

"Rust's compiler prevents common bugs" So does skill. No offense to you, but, this trope is getting so tiresome. If you like the language then go ahead and use it. What is it with the rust crowd that they have to come acrosslike people trying to convert your religion at your front door?

I don't think that casting a range of bits as some other arbitrary type "is a bug nobody sees coming".

C++ compilers also warn you that this is likely an issue and will fail to compile if configured to do so. But it will let you do it if you really want to.

That's why I love C++

I came here to vent; I'm sick of being told that I'm non-confrontational and I avoid confrontation, I don't. I avoid confrontation with you because you need to be correct so I'd rather not waste time by arguing with you and instead just find a way to solve the problem in which you're correct and the problem is solved. And it's objectively wrong to say about me that I avoid confrontation because I do have regular confrontation with specific people who do end it.

But if you think conflict builds character you're not going to get any of that character building with me ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ sorry nobody owes it you which means no one owes you a confrontation which means I'm not avoiding confrontation.

I know he used to have that TV show I never watched but Pam mentioned it on the office.

I remember seeing him in home alone but I was a small kid, I didn't get who he was.

Hell I even remember liking Elon Musk the celeb for abit.

So why was Trump ever cool or popular or famous?

Original tiktok (click if you're ok tiktok tracks these links)

He won't sit on a couch next to me or by himself. He might hang out with me on my bed but 80% of the time he's on the floor.

Is he hot?

Is he sad?

Can I do something to help him?

He's 2 btw

I feel like I'd use my file browser if it was easier to get around. ctrp-p like zoxide/fzf would be game changing.

Edit: sry tbh I wasn't clear.. I was asking for a GUI file browser, sry ranger covers my tui needs

I saw this tiktok where this guy was talking about how he'd get his hands on real social security numbers.. this was a clip from a whole story he told about some criminal shit, I was too distracted by my thoughts on how to fix the exploits he used.

Block chains and cryptographic signatures would solve basically every one of his exploits. But regardless of the myriad of reasons as to why we won't adopt cryptography into American laws and bureaucracy, imagine if we did do everything involving government and policy in a cryptographically secure environment.

Imagine if everyone who is born gets assigned a gpg secret key signed by the government and that is your government ID for everything from opening a bank account to paying your taxes to claiming benefits. IMPO I think this is a perfect solution (iif you ignore the human element).

So my question is why wouldn't it be perfect, and what kind of exploits could bad actors use in a cryptographic bureaucracy?