this post was submitted on 01 Jul 2026
418 points (99.1% liked)
196
6570 readers
2807 users here now
Community Rules
You must post before you leave
Be nice. Assume others have good intent (within reason).
Block or ignore posts, comments, and users that irritate you in some way rather than engaging. Report if they are actually breaking community rules.
Use content warnings and/or mark as NSFW when appropriate. Most posts with content warnings likely need to be marked NSFW.
Most 196 posts are memes, shitposts, cute images, or even just recent things that happened, etc. There is no real theme, but try to avoid posts that are very inflammatory, offensive, very low quality, or very "off topic".
Bigotry is not allowed, this includes (but is not limited to): Homophobia, Transphobia, Racism, Sexism, Abelism, Classism, or discrimination based on things like Ethnicity, Nationality, Language, or Religion.
Avoid shilling for corporations, posting advertisements, or promoting exploitation of workers.
Proselytization, support, or defense of authoritarianism is not welcome. This includes but is not limited to: imperialism, nationalism, genocide denial, ethnic or racial supremacy, fascism, Nazism, Marxism-Leninism, Maoism, etc.
Avoid AI generated content.
Avoid misinformation.
Avoid incomprehensible posts.
No threats or personal attacks.
No spam.
Moderator Guidelines
Moderator Guidelines
- Don’t be mean to users. Be gentle or neutral.
- Most moderator actions which have a modlog message should include your username.
- When in doubt about whether or not a user is problematic, send them a DM.
- Don’t waste time debating/arguing with problematic users.
- Assume the best, but don’t tolerate sealioning/just asking questions/concern trolling.
- Ask another mod to take over cases you struggle with, if you get tired, or when things get personal.
- Ask the other mods for advice when things get complicated.
- Share everything you do in the mod matrix, both so several mods aren't unknowingly handling the same issues, but also so you can receive feedback on what you intend to do.
- Don't rush mod actions. If a case doesn't need to be handled right away, consider taking a short break before getting to it. This is to say, cool down and make room for feedback.
- Don’t perform too much moderation in the comments, except if you want a verdict to be public or to ask people to dial a convo down/stop. Single comment warnings are okay.
- Send users concise DMs about verdicts about them, such as bans etc, except in cases where it is clear we don’t want them at all, such as obvious transphobes. No need to notify someone they haven’t been banned of course.
- Explain to a user why their behavior is problematic and how it is distressing others rather than engage with whatever they are saying. Ask them to avoid this in the future and send them packing if they do not comply.
- First warn users, then temp ban them, then finally perma ban them when they break the rules or act inappropriately. Skip steps if necessary.
- Use neutral statements like “this statement can be considered transphobic” rather than “you are being transphobic”.
- No large decisions or actions without community input (polls or meta posts f.ex.).
- Large internal decisions (such as ousting a mod) might require a vote, needing more than 50% of the votes to pass. Also consider asking the community for feedback.
- Remember you are a voluntary moderator. You don’t get paid. Take a break when you need one. Perhaps ask another moderator to step in if necessary.
founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
I mean by that logic simply being GNC in any way online is considered Egg baiting. I don't like that outlook very much because people within egg culture spaces say that GNC people are trans by virtue of being GNC. If someone wants to be more feminine because they like the idea of looking and dressing more fem but they enjoy being a guy and they get called an egg for that, they are getting called an egg for "unintentional behavior". For some of the very flagrantly GNC people including myself it can seem like we're bringing it upon ourselves on purpose. I can assure you that we're not. I don't enjoy being harassed in DMs and sent AI generated porn of my sona because people think I'm a girl in denial (yes that happened and it was disgusting) I do what I love in spite of the abuse I get/have gotten not because I like it or want more of it.
I realized that I misread the original comic as Shen saying that looking like a girl made him feel funny things, which is why I said he was eggbaiting. That's entirely on me for jumping to a snap judgement while not in the right headspace to think critically. Egg accusations are really harmful, especially online where our knowledge of the person is parasocial at best.
I don't always see eye to eye with you, but I respect you and hate how much people target you for not fitting into their preconceived notions. I don't get half of the personal attacks you get, and that's in no small part thanks to me being a binary trans woman who is somehow perceived as "normal" in this corner of the internet. I fit common schemas, so people almost always sort me into the box I hold no objection to, a luxury people who exist off the gender conforming binary don't get.
I really should've known better, both as a former egg and as someone who experimented off the binary path and hated how little people respected it. I'm sorry that I said something so insensitive.
Ah yeah, I definitely see why that could be considered eggbating. I do honestly think that eggbating is a problem just as much as egg accusations. It almost encourages the behavior.
Although I think it's better to call out the egging behavior than it is to call out what could be egg baiting, but what also could be people expressing themselves, or encouraging others to express themselves freely. Behavior that can be seen as eggbating by others wouldn't actually be a problem if egg accusations weren't thrown around as casually as they are.