Ask Lemmy

Everyone's talking about "learn a skill" like it's some magic fix. I've tried, and nothing has stuck. What am I doing wrong?

Over the past while I've actually tried: copywriting, logo design, tutoring, SEO, social media management. Not just thought about them, actually tried them. I even reached out to businesses directly for each one, emailed a genuinely large number of people, and maybe 1% ever replied, and even then it was usually just "we don't need this right now" before the conversation closed. And every single one, I quit before it went anywhere.

I don't think it's because these skills don't work, plenty of people clearly make money from all of them. I think something in how I'm approaching this is off, and I want to actually understand what before I pick up something new and repeat the same pattern for the sixth time.

So instead of just asking "what skill should I learn," I want to ask something more specific:

For people who actually stuck with a skill long enough to see results, how long did it take before you saw any real payoff? I have a feeling I've been quitting before the "boring middle part" even ends.

Did you struggle with switching between different skills before one finally clicked, or did you commit hard to one thing from the start?

Is a 1% reply rate on cold outreach actually normal, or is that a sign my pitch, targeting, or approach itself needs fixing before I even think about the skill?

If you were in my position right now, tried five different things with nothing to show for it, what would you actually do differently, a new skill, or the same list with more patience?

I'm not opposed to learning something new, but I'd rather fix whatever's actually broken in my approach than just add a sixth failed attempt to the list...................