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I find this is often a conflict between what i want and what other people tell me I should want. And by "other people", that is usually advertising companies.
There are billions of dollars being spent to convince me to go to bars and buy alcohol. Billions being spent to convince me to go out to eat at restaurants or order something delivered through an app. Billions being spent to tell me my body isn't good enough, so I shoukd get hair treatment kr skin products or exercise equipment. Billions being spent to try to convince me to buy a bunch of cheap plastic shit, and a bigger house or even a separate storage unit to put it all in. Billions being spent to convince me to go to concerts and stand-up shows and raves and movies and festivals and conventions where I can spend more money. Billions being spent trying tk get me to sign up for a monthly subscription for everything. There's billions being spent by various religions to try to convince me to join. For women, there's actually money being spent by misogynists to convince them to promote the "tradwife" lifestyle.
A lot of the best things in life don't have marketing budgets. There's no one advertising the relief you feel when you have a solid emergency fund, gow great it feels when an appliance breaks and you can just replace it withoit having to stress over it. There's no one advertising how good it is just to go for a walk, or to spend a summer evening sitting on my back porch, watching the bats catching fireflies in the woods. There's no one advertising how good it feels to re-read your favorite book fkr the 20th time, or to watch your favorite TV show on DVD for the 10th time. There's no one advertising having a couplr of close friends over for an evening to just... Talk. There's no one advertising the evenings where my wife and I just put on one of our favorite albums and lay in bed listening to it. There was advertising involved to get us to BUY that album, and even that bed, but no advertising to get us to actually ENJOY those things. You need to do it yourself.
It is also not a binary system. Plenty of people go out to raves or burns once or twice a year, going on benders, then go back to quiet and simple lifestyles the rest of the time.